Last updated: July 8, 2018
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
My message to those who are finding happiness within themselves:
Remember the five simple rules to be happy in life:
Free your heart from hatred,
Free your mind from worries,
Live simply,
Give more,
Expect less.
First of all, happiness is something that's hidden within you, which you have to discover in order to find true happiness. Happiness is within yourself & is probably buried underneath all the anger, frustration & disappointment that occurs within your life. If you keep looking for happiness you will never find it.
As a child you were probably always happy, but now that you're growing up, you have now covered this bliss with the dust of materialism & other negatives that occur within your life. Now you want the happiness back & you try to search this happiness outside in the materialistic world. It is clear that anything (including happiness) should be searched where it is lost, & nowhere else. To find happiness within yourself, you have to be the best friend of your own reflection. You have to love yourself first. You have to accept yourself perfectly for who you are & the activity's that you do. For example, do your normal deeds & activities for your own contentment only, but do not do it to please or impress others. Sometimes it is also best if you reserve some time out on your own, for your own up liftment as a pure soul, to uplift your spirits & strength. If you have too, talk to God & do some prayers for yourself as well as for others around you. Do small deeds & acts of kindness & be more generous. Generous in helping & loving others, in sharing, in caring, in forgiving yourself, & others who you encounter, & as well as moving on from your past. Always remember, whatever you're currently doing in your life, or have yet to do in your life, always enjoy it no matter what other people may think of you & strive to do each & everything you accomplish with perfection. Forget what has been the past of yours, but rather live in the presence & appreciate for the good deeds you do for others & yourself, as well as dissolve any guilt of your past sins & always forgive the enemies & turn to God, therefore you can become closer to him & he can strengthen your faith along the way. If you follow these few steps you will be a free, uplifting soul without any entangle or worries of the unknown.
Remember, to be happy, you must be happy with yourself first. Always love yourself, no matter what. Unconditional love is the highest form of love you can attain. Know you are more beautiful & powerful than anyone could possibly comprehend. Find a hobby, so you can develop yourself. Be creative with yourself or learn a new instrument, draw, paint, become loving to others & have compassion for everyone & everything including yourself. Look into meditation. Find the silence within yourself. The space in between each thought you have, let it expand. be & live in the present moment, observe everything around you, observe with all 5 senses, be present. Don't be worried about the past, it's gone & it's now only a memory which isn't even real, & the future is not yet known, so live your life as if it was your last day. If others hate on you or don't like the choices you make, then let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn't about pleasing everybody on this earth. The reality is that you can't change how people feel about you, so don't waste your time trying because your life is more valuable then trying to get the whole world to like you, for your own happiness. The key is to live your life & be happy with yourself first. Your happiness should not depend on others. Never put your happiness in the hands of someone else., but rather seek God & ask for happiness. Remember, your happiness is not determined by what's happening around you, but rather what's happening inside of you. If you really want to be happy, you have to find the happiness within yourself first. You should be happy because you love who you are as a person. You should love your flaws & love your imperfections. Smile every chance you get, not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy & grateful for all the good things you do have & all the problems you know you don't have. Always remember, silence & smiles are two powerful tools. Smile is the way to solve many problems & silence is the way to avoid many problems. When you're being faced in a tough situation by someone or something, don't ever be afraid to show who you really are because as long as you're happy with yourself, no one Else's opinion matters. Life has taught me that to be happy one must attain peace. For without peace, there can be no happiness.
Being happy implies being blissful & content with life. You should always stay happy & never let any sort of tension bother you. God would never want to see you unhappy, but he forgives us, as well as love us & wants us to trust him in good times & bad times. You can always be happy if you don’t look back at your past as a negative, or complain about your flaws, or how your appearance looks, or complain about things, & etc, & yet. still feel satisfied with who you are as a person & where you stand at in life. However, being satisfied does not mean that you should not strive further to achieve more in life, for there is always room for improvement. With that said, the truth is that those people who choose to stay happy hardly suffer health problems. I say this because being happy can only be possible if you stay healthy & are at peace with your inner yourself. If you don’t stay happy, you are bound to suffer from mental stress & fatigue caused as a result of being down & depressed all the time, which then effects your decisions, your thought of process, your state of mind, your well-being, & your life in general. It's scary to even think about this, but there's so many young teenagers, Men & Woman that strive to look for happiness for so long, to the point where they suffer with depression & think that they aren't worthy of life, but they are. God put you on earth with a plan for you & that's something to smile & be happy about. Being happy is about being content to a great extent. Stay happy, cool & composed. Life will seem fun & easy if lived this way. Happiness makes you feel joyful & euphoric. In addition, it definitely adds to your contentment.
If you are not happy, then you can't be happy with hardly anything. You can not depend on others to make you happy. You must find happiness within yourself, meaning in your heart. Of course you may become happy when you find true love or get to college, or get a new house or car & etc. Why? Because these things enhance your happiness & makes you a better person, & when you are a better person, you will feel that happiness. Understand that accomplishments in life fulfill you, like hobbies you're good at, playing an instrument you may be good at, or just helping someone for a cause & etc, can make you feel like you are productive & have accomplished something. If not, then you may feel like something is missing. You may feel a void if you don't have this & turn to the wrong source to fill the void like the wrong soul-mate, alcohol, drugs, abuse & etc. But on the upside, It is a good feeling for everyone to have their own things they enjoy, something as simple as baking, reading, knitting, building, gardening, painting, drawing & etc. My advice would be to stick to what you are good at, because it builds self-esteem & you become a better person because of it. Of course for many people, spirituality is important to them, & just knowing that you can put your faith on God & lean on God, when times get rough, he will give you the strength to get you through anything. Just knowing you can put everything in his hands takes a big weight off your shoulders. This will make you have happiness within because you are content in life & go with the flow, just kind of dealing with what ever comes your way. It's a good feeling knowing you can go to God anytime & he will listen & always, always answer your prayers as long as you have faith that he will answer them.
Are you still not sure how to be happy? Are you still looking for ways to be happy? No problem. Down below, I will list my own advice on how to become a more happier person:
1. Do less things that you know are wrong, immoral, illegal, or stupid. You don't have to become a saint or join the Peace Corps, but if you stop doing stuff that violates your sense of right & wrong, you'll be taking a big step toward living a happier life. For example, when you receive a gift, or someone does something nice or thoughtful for you, acknowledge them & send a thank you note. Another example, if someone is feeling down & lonely, you wouldn't let anyone continue to hurt them, right? You wouldn't want to hurt them as well, right? Instead, you can encourage them with advice & guidance to move ahead. It's always a good thing to pay it forward to others. Always give more then you receive, you will never be disappointed. In fact, it will make you feel a lot more happy.
2. Do good work for others & contribute to charities, societies & community. I say this because helping others enriches the soul & lets you see how other people live their lives & survive their day to day existence. People who do good deeds for others are normally busy & are much happier than those that don't. So with that said, maybe you could do nice things for your family & friends. Why? Because we derive a lot of pleasure from the praise we receive for good deeds. Think to yourself, who are the happiest people you know? Watch what they do, how they act, & the ways in which they conduct themselves & you will see that they're very happy.
3. A lot of stress which can cause unhappiness can also be put on us by ourselves, so if you can eliminate some of the sources, you'll be much calmer. For example, If you're always late for things, set your alarm earlier & make it a a goal to always arrive ahead of time. If your house is a mess, do your best to eliminate some of the clutter. Why? Because If you have a neat, clean, & pleasing environment to live in you'll be a lot happier with much less stress. The point is, any simple things you forget to do on a day to day basic's - try to accomplish them so that way you're not wearing yourself out about it.
4. If you have trouble dealing with someone such as a boss, teacher, parent, or romantic partner, communicate to them as openly as you can & make them aware of your willingness to discuss things with them. A lot of those types of problems are based on lack of information or misconceptions, so if you can just talk a bit, it seems to help a lot, because when someone you care about seems to hurt you, you can hold on to anger, resentment & thoughts of revenge, or talk about the situation, embrace forgiveness & move forward. forgiveness frees your soul.
5. Take care of your body. You don't have to join a gym or start running marathons, but eating right & getting enough sleep will do a lot to help lower your stress level & increase your overall happiness. Try to eat less junk food, & high fructose corn syrup, & salt. Eat more vegetables, whole grains, & fresh fruit. Again, you don't have to become a militant vegan, just do what you can to eat better stuff, in appropriate helpings. Get some exercise as well, even if it's only taking a walk. Use the stairs instead of an elevator when you can, things like that. You'll feel better with more energy with just a small change in your diet afterwards, especially if you're like most people & don't get the proper nutrition from the foods you eat.
6. Watch less television because it is proven that those that people who watch a lot of TV are more unhappy than those that watch less. Instead, read more because using your imagination is a lot more productive & satisfying than passively watching most of the crap that's on TV today. Reading will put you into a more happier state of mind. Try it.
7. Listen to music. Why? Because it keeps you connected to your inner soul & to the universe, in which all are very important to survive on this planet. Music with life meaning in it is very beneficial & can also be used as a "mentor" tool to help you with whatever you're going through in life, which will help make you a more happy person.
8. Be careful of who you hang around with. If your friends are bitter & weird, chances are you will be, too. A lot of people spend most of their lives complaining about everything without doing much to make anything better about the situation, & you don't want to be one of those people. You want to take charge of your own happiness & be committed to your own happiness. Only you make your own feelings & choices, so don't let anyone else take that away from you.
9. Be part of the solution, not the problem. Be someone others want to be around because you're kind, smart, funny, & warm. Treat the less fortunate with kindness & respect. In fact, you should treat everyone with kindness & respect. Always treat people that way you'd want to be treated. What comes around goes around. Not only will you feel happier, but so will everyone else who your around.
10. When you get a job, save something from each & every paycheck you get, even if it's just a dollar. Why? Because saving helps you plan for your future & will help you get into that habit of saving money right from the beginning. Once you start receiving income & saving money, you will feel a lot more freedom & more happiness. You could then treat yourself every once in a while from out of your savings pocket.
11. Every once in a while, take an inventory of your life. For example, you could make a five year plan & write down your goals that you plan to achieve so that you know what they are ahead of time. When doing so, be very specific about what your goals are & how you plan to achieve them. Doing this is good because writing down your goals & thoughts for the future will help you reach for the stars, even when you are down & feel that everything is lost.
I want to thank those who have been very supportive of my post's. If by any chance you need to seek my help, advice, encouragement, guidance, or inspiration, please feel free to message me for further discussion.
Thanks for the love...
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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