Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
The problem with Cyber bullying today:
If It's one thing I can't stand anywhere in this world, it's seeing young teenagers, Men & Woman being lied to about their own self, or being harassed, or harmed, or picked on, or becoming hurt emotionally or wanting to kill their self's because of people who Cyber bully those through social media, text messages, emails, & etc, on a daily basic's, in today's world. Generally speaking, nobody deserves to get hurt emotionally, or harassed, or made fun of, or lied to about themselves, & etc, over something so stupid, & childish, which is called "Cyber bullying." For example, on Facebook, It frustrates me when I read things on social media that people post that are rude, ignorant, & just aren't true about others, & by doing so, it effects the innocent victim by marking a bad image upon their self's, by being harassed & made fun of, which leads to lowering their self-esteem emotionally & to make them want to hurt their self's physically & feel as though they aren't worthy at life. Then to make matters worse, the Cyber bully who's harassing you & posting these rude & ignorant messages or hate words to you, has the nerve to bring in more of what you call, "their people" into the situation so now it's you up against 5 or 10 other people who are all making an attempt to Cyber bully you. Next thing you know, other people who you may not even know may post ignorant hate messages or words about you that just aren't true, so they can grab more exposure & lies about you, then what happens at that point? Your name get's spread all around social media so other people can chime in on whatever they heard about you & start to pick on you & assume the wrong information, so they have something to use against you. As a person with beliefs, I feel as though it's extremely rude & uncalled for when Cyber bullies try to pick on, make fun of, harass or harm the innocent victim by making up ignorant lies by having to use the internet, or any social media website, to try to bring others down by trying to hurt them with "hate" words or messages. It makes the bully look immature & weak for hurting & harassing others like that. Unfortunately It's all about power & control, through popularity. The Cyber bully gains popularity through the expense of someone he deems different from everyone else. The more the Cyber bully gets others to join his/her's crowd, the more power he/she gets. I am sick & tired of all this "ignorant behavior" & "overpower" & drama that goes on in social media. Not only social media, but generally speaking, school environments, work environments, public places & at home. I understand "bullies" have reasons for the way they act but that doesn't mean you have to taunt the innocent victim, or bully them online, or hurt them through words, or harass them, or bring their self-esteem down. Stop & think before you say or do something that could hurt someone emotionally or physically. Some Cyber bullies probably don't realize they are bullying others & don't realize the devastating implications it could have on someone. You may think your cool when you Cyber bully others on the internet, or through your words, but how will you feel when you see on the local news that the kid your mean too & Cyber bullied everyday through the internet or through text messaging, commits suicide because of you? Because you happened to called him/her names on the internet? Because you had picked on him/her & made for of them? Because you had happened to spread false information across the internet about "him/her" to others on social media websites? Because you had simply "harassed" him/her repeatedly? Because you had simply "overpowered" & defeated him/her? Huh? How would YOU like to be called names, be picked on, made fun of, lied too, & harassed repeatedly? The bottom line is, words can hurt, & sometimes even kill a person, so stop Cyber bullying others just for the sake of it. It's a very simple task to do, & if you can't control yourself & you feel like you MUST Cyber bully others to seek attention, then there must be some kind of strange mutation going on in your brain memory cells. Cyber bullies who take advantage of the innocent through social media or say "hate words" or "hate" messages repetitively to the innocent victim when they are weak & hurt doesn't make the bully any smarter or "tougher" or more "overpowered" then the innocent victim. It just means they're a bully who's ignorant & doesn't care for others feelings, it's as simple as that. Cyber bullying are for people who love to seek attention, don't have any confidence at all, have weak morals & values, have a low self-esteem, have anger issues, has have been raised without properly knowing what's right from wrong, or have been abused or "hated" by their own family or friends while growing up, or made fun of by their own family members & friends while growing up in the type of environment that they lived in. These are very common reasons why Cyber bullies become the people they are today. Regardless of the reasons, It just makes me sick to my stomach when a Cyber bully picks on someone by using the internet to type "hate messages" or "hate words" using social media, but will only attack the shy or quiet people because they know that shy people normally won't fight back or stand up for them self's. The reason why Cyber bullies do the things they do is because they feel superior to their targets. Cyber bullies are narrow minded people who can't accept others for being different, or having a different outlook on life. In their eyes they have everything in their perfect little world & cant seem to accept others for who they are.
Here's a little hint for all these "want-to-be," "tough" Cyber bullies out here who think they have accomplished something in their life's by wanting to pick on other people through social media & create attention for drama: If you're a person who is still in high school, or either been out of high school for more than 2 years at this point, & you still participate in the "he said, she said" non sense & spread lies towards other people because you feel like making innocent others hurt their self's physically or making them hurt their own self's, or if you still continue to hurt others emotionally, by harassing & putting others down, or verbally, by spreading false information towards others in person, then you need to grow up & get educated, period. You should be out worrying about bettering your OWN life as a human being instead of trying to bring others down by picking on others & spreading & making up lies & harassing & hurting people's reputations & images through your own words. You should be focused on YOURSELF, & not anyone else.
I, myself, have never got into a Cyber bully situation, or have never been Cyber bullied from anyone, throughout all my years I've been living. Not in elementary school, not in middle school, not in high school, not after high school, not outside of high school, not at work, & generally speaking, not in public. However, I do know how to handle situations if I was ever faced by a "want-to-be" Cyber bully, & you should know too. Personally, I wouldn't let ANY type of bully step on me the way I see innocent others being stomped on & harassed, & hurt & made fun of through social media, & the internet in general, or in person. I'll tell you one thing, if anyone were to Cyber bully me by spreading lies about me, or spread hate words or messages online through social media, or in person, & attempt to "harass" me, or make fun of me, they would NOT win in the end, as I know how to appropriately take action in situations like these. When I'm not the innocent victim being Cyber bullied, I stand up for others when I physically see, with my own eyes, another victim being Cyber bullied & harassed through hate words, messages, hate speech or lies. However, when I stand up for the innocent victim, I learn how to control the situation without having it turn into physical violence, & that's something you should learn as well. Violence in general is NOT the answer to solve ANY type of problem in life, especially when it comes to Cyber bullying, or ANY type of bullying for that matter. It doesn't take any kind of violence to put a Cyber bully in their place, if you know what I mean. There are many alternative ways to handle a Cyber bully.
Whoever has known me for quite a while now, would tell you I am one of the nicest, most respectful people you will ever meet. I tell things the way it is, the way it SHOULD be heard. The truth be told is that I am not a fighter, I don't "overpower" others through my words, I never had & never will. If someone where to Cyber bully me, or use their words through social media or in person, to spread false information & lies about me, to try to lower my self-esteem or harass me, it would simply not work, as I'm a person who doesn't care what others may think of me, but furthermore, I will continue to be who I am & let nothing stop me from getting in the way, & that's how YOU should be if you are ever faced in a situation with a Cyber bully. For others who may know me, know that I am a lover & I just want everyone to become educated upon Cyber bullying & to get along with each other & stop the childish, immature, disgusting, two-faced, ignorant, & disrespectful behavior going on through text messaging, the internet, on social media & so fourth.
My message goes to anyone who is being cyber bullied anywhere on the internet, or through text message. Always remember, if you're being bullied in ANY type of situation, just remember, they are most likely scared of you. There's honestly nothing to worry about, especially in situations where you're being bullied behind a computer screen. Why? Because the truth is that you have something that they don't & that's what makes them want to pick on you, spread lies, & false information around about you. Don't let any words from any bully affect you because they are the ones who need the confidence & the attention, not you. Think of it this way, when a Cyber bully spreads lies about you, whether it happens to be in person, or on the internet, realize that you're getting your name more known out there for free, by absolutely doing nothing but sitting back & laughing at the remarks & words that are said about you. You're getting your time worth of fame when a Cyber bully spreads lies & rumors about you, which should be a good feeling, because in today's world, trying to be famous is HARDER then doing absolutely nothing, & still getting fame, so take that as a positive thing. With that being said, you should never let anyone make you feel down about yourself, because only YOU know who you are as a person with feelings. I know it sucks being Cyber bullied, especially when you're constantly being picked on, but there isn't much you can do but stand up for yourself & constantly let the rude remarks & laughter roll off your back every time you're being bullied with hate speech, words, & messages. If you're constantly being picked on, then you should constantly show that you don't care for what the Cyber bully has to say about you, for they may eventually get tired of trying to pick on you & give up on bullying you. As hard & painful as that may sound to constantly be talked about, & trying to constantly avoid it, is hard, I know. But understand that It's not going to be easy being singled out neither, but everything will make up in the end, for the Cyber bully will eventually get the clue that you obviously don't give a damn what's being said about yourself, & they will also get the idea that you're NOT the one that needs to change yourself, or how you look at yourself in the mirror, it's the Cyber bully who needs to look in the mirror & change themselves, so don't worry about it, because all Cyber bullies will be taught a lesson when reality strikes them in the face. With that being said, if you're a good human being, & you KNOW you're a good human being, then you should ALWAYS remain who you are, & not change for anyone. Always Remember, if you truly love yourself, then nothing else that anyone says about you should matter. On another note, It's sad to say, but "Cyber bullies" will be around at every stage of your life. Not only on the internet or through social media, but in public school environments, work environments, & in public places or just anywhere in public for that matter. Realize that "Cyber bully's" tend to treat others that they deem "different" as a lower-form of a person, when in reality, we are ALL equal human beings & we all deserve to be treated equally, & with respect, no differently from the next person we encounter with, says God. Unfortunately, we live in a world where "Cyber bullying" will never end, no matter what the situation is, or how many people you try to encourage to stop picking on others. However, this is a on-going type of act that works it's way around the world sadly. The most important thing though is to only worry about yourself. Worry about what, & who's around you. Know yourself & know your surroundings. Be ready to take approach & action if somebody ever comes along & attempts to put you down.
Here are a few of my own ways you can avoid being Cyber bullied in general, or any type of bully in general:
1 -- Work your way around the bullies. If it's a Cyber bulling issue that's occurring through the internet, I suggest you block them on social media if rumors & lies are still making their way around the internet about you. Do not worry if the Cyber bully has gained attention from others around them, that refer or talk about you. Just remember, in the end, YOU are the one getting the fame for being well known for something you're not, & you should look at that as a good thing.
2 -- If Cyber bullying becomes or turns physical in person, try & avoid making contact with them in through school, social environments, & in any public environments. Remember, if the bully goes somewhere the same way you do, try a different route then you normally take. If they can't find you, they can't bully you, & if you switch your routes daily, it highers the chance of you not being seen by the bully. The goal is to not go anywhere near them, but rather try your best to avoid them but don't show that you are avoiding them, just act casual about it. If you show that you are avoiding them, they will usually read this as fear & success & they will bully you more as a result.
3 -- Show minimal reaction to Cyber bullying. Do not show any Cyber bully that you feel hurt if they try to pick on you, or say certain words against you, or spread false rumors about you, or anything that may make you feel uncomfortable. Brush the words off your back & let the words roll, because you love yourself & you know that whatever is said about you, is not true. You must understand that Cyber bullies gain satisfaction from making others feel hurt or uncomfortable about themselves, so giving them a reaction of feelings may only encourage them to bully you further. The bully may want attention & if you show them that, they are going to hurt you more, emotionally, & they will get more pleasure out of doing this.
4 -- Do not make jokes at your own expense to try to prove that there is nothing they can do to hurt your feelings. Why? Because this will only please the bully & they will often chip in with their own ridicule & humiliation to lower your self-esteem & to make you feel depressed or not worthy of life.
5 -- Report all bullying to an authority figure. Consider your parents, school guidance counselor, principal, police, or someone else who can deal with or punish the bully & protect your safety. If you're being Cyber bullied through the internet, make sure you print out a report & a copy of the evidence that was said about you & report it either through the websites "block/report" tab, or file a report & call the police immediately, as they will investigate the situation & find a conclusion that will peacefully end your problem.
6 -- It's important that you talk to someone about your problem to get it to end. Do not worry about the revenge that the bully may take if you report the incident, as they will hurt you anyway, & appeasing them doesn't solve your problem. You can also go tell a good friend about your problem. A good friend includes them standing up for you & you standing up for them as well at all times.
7 -- If there is a Cyber bullying survey in your school always write your name down. Please do not be embarrassed to write your name down, for you will probably start to talk to someone who is very experienced with dealing with Cyber bullying & this can be surprisingly helpful to yourself.
8 -- Always remember, you should NEVER be embarrassed by telling an adult, a friend, or a stranger about your situation. Always remember, you are a normal & a good person. If you're being bullied, there is NOTHING wrong with you, or weird about you that might make a bully pick on you. It is always the bully who's picking on you, that needs the help. If you go around & tell anyone about your problem & what you're going through, It is guaranteed that people will understand your situation when you tell them what's going on & how you feel, so you're NOT alone.
Thanks for your time in reading & I hope you take this advice & benefit from this, if you ever do encounter or approach a Cyber bully, anywhere on the internet, social media, or through text messaging, or in person.
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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