Last updated: July 15th, 2018
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
My message to young teenagers, Men & Woman who lack "patience" in their lives:
Let me first start off by saying that patience is something that should be taught from their parents, or those who raise them, preferably during young childhood, because first thoughts & wants in life are not always the best ones. The biggest benefit of learning what patience is & how to control it, is that it allows second thoughts before any damage is done by the first ones. Patience is something that should be taught by those who raise them, & I feel as though in this modern world, young children are just not being taught how to be have patience by their parents, or those who raise them. Unfortunately, this whole concept of teaching your kids / children how to be patient, does not seem to be done much these days, & that needs to change. Patience is not only something that should be taught to us as small children, but also with the lesson of sharing. For example, watch any young child & if that child is left to it's own devices & its own will on a daily basic's, then that child will become a selfish child in the long-run, "I want this & that" or "I want it right now." & so fourth. So, teaching a child to share it's toys is also the start of teaching that child how to have patience. Unfortunately, this does not seem to be taught either to any young children now a days. However, I believe that in some way, shape, or form, we are all born selfish by nature down to natural instincts & actual survival, so of course it's important that we all learn. For some people, its easy to learn how to control patience. For others, especially those who were not taught how to have patience during their childhood, then turn out to become the impatient adults in the long run, not getting their own way instantly, or not getting an answer straight away from someone or something, that will literally send them into a raging temper, until others around them point out their "impatience" to them & make them wait their turn, & so fourth. The effect of this outcome in life normally comes from the adult or parent that hasn't learned to exercise patience themselves, during the time that they were raising their child. Therefore, the parent's become miserable during their kids early childhood because their parents will forever get annoyed due to the fact that their demands or "wants" are not being met immediately, which will then spark temper problems possibly in front of their own children or kids, influencing their young children or kids to have that type of nasty attitude in life, demanding of what they want when they grow up & to think they can obtain anything they want in life without having to wait for it, or earn it. We need to understand that young children & kids imitate the actions of the adults. It is important that we guide them to imitate things that are good & will be healthy & useful to them in the long run. Remember, kids & children are only learning, so if you teach these kids or children to lose their temper at a young age due to the fact that you're inpatient & "demand" of certain "needs" or "wants" in a lot of situations, then that child or kid will observe your actions & will grow up thinking that is the right thing to do & carry it around with them all their life. Remember, the child's perception is completely different from the parent's. So with patience & endurance, you & your child can understand each other.
Having patience is good in many ways, & that is why it's important to have in life. On any scale in life, patience plays a part all the time. Patience in general is good because things we have to wait for or earn are always appreciated more than those things that are just given to us, which leads to an easy come easy go approach to life & gives nothing any value. Once we are adults, we start to find out that life is not that simple & we can't just have things whenever we want them, we have to earn them, whether that would be a job opportunity, a new position, a new car, a new house, & so fourth. The only way we can earn thing's in life is if we work hard, while being patient. It has never been easy to be patient in life, but it's probably harder now than at any time in history. In a world in which messages can be sent across the world instantly, in which seemingly everything is available for immediate purchase with a few clicks of the mouse, in a world in which we demand many thing's from others & expect everything to happen right on the spot. We must understand that it's hard not to always expect instant gratification in life, but patience remains a valuable tool in life. Why? Because patience leads us into doing & planning other useful things that we could be doing, keeping us occupied while still having our temper under control. This keeps our minds stress free, keeps our blood pressure down, makes us more healthier, & it makes us a nicer person, one who is liked more by others, for they are made at ease in our presence. Having patience is definitely a valuable character trait to develop. It may appear to be passive, however it is an active, purposeful & necessary form of self discipline, & without having patience, many of our actions would be counter-productive & ultimately, such time & energy would be wasted during our lives, for patience is a time tested virtue. We may not always get instant gratification in life, but we must understand that the best things that life has to offer to us require years of hard work & waiting. Fortunately, patience is a virtue that can be cultivated & nurtured. Being patient is also taking the time to love yourself enough to see that "you" are worth it, & that "you" are valued & that "you" contribute to this world. Being patient is expecting the unexpected & wanting nothing more then happiness within yourself. Again, we as humans have to nurture, love, give & respect our self's before we can be good for anyone else. Your happiness with "you" brings people to you, it's not like waiting for others to come to you, but when it happens, then you'll know it's the right time for you. When we become patient, we also decide what is healthy & not healthy for us. We make the decision what we will have or not have in our life. We make the decisions to heal our wounds, scars & tears so that we can experience wisdom & growth, never taking advantage of each and every breath we take, for time is not replaceable & people are not replaceable in life. We need to start living & enjoying every fraction or second of our lives & utilize every moment of our life's constructively. Every moment we have, should be a happy moment. We should be so busy using our every moment in life, that we wont be desperate or impatiently waiting for the results of the next moment to come. Understand that when we are not desperate to lose the joy of every happy moment we have, it is only then, that we are having patience within ourselves.
The way for us to develop patience is to simply practice patience persistently & constantly until it becomes a habit. When we are doing a task, or a job, we must hang on to it until it is completed. Understand that if we switch to other activities without having finished the one that we had originally started, then we are not exercising our patience. So It's best to be aware of this tendency & cut it out at the outset. Having patience is really a matter of self control as well, & It's not really difficult to be patient if only we could "make up our minds." Our minds should stick to one task & one task only. It is in the garden of patience that strength grows best within "patience." Always remember, there's a remedy for everything in patience, but for lack of patience , there is no remedy. We cannot succeed in life if we lack patience because patience is a necessary ingredient for achieving our goals. Our motivation to finish a task ought to be strong enough for us to stay with it & stick with it, & we can only really stick to it if we are doing a task that is important & relevant to our long term goals in life. If what we are doing seems trivial, unnecessary & irrelevant , then there's no wonder why we lack patience. If we do a task that really matters to us, then we will be patient without really trying because we want it badly enough already. So with that kind of reasoning, I hope you are now enlightened as to how you can develop your patience. Don't worry & don't find yourself discouraged if at first you find it difficult to practice patience. Always take a few deep breathes & remind yourself that things take time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now & don't like to waste time. However, some things in life just can't be rushed. Think about your happiest memories. Chances are, they were situations when your patience had paid off, like when you had worked steadily towards a goal that wasn't immediately gratifying, or took a little extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one, & so fourth. Think about it, would you have those memories if you had been impatient in the first place? Chances are that you probably wouldn't, so always remember that just about anything really good that life has to offer to us takes time & dedication, & if you're impatient, then you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, choices, decisions, & other things in life that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come, don't come right away. Again, don't be discouraged or stressed if you are someone who has a hard time understanding how to have patience. Always be persist & once you have overcome the first few hurdles, the going gets easier & easier for you to handle as time goes on. Eventually & gradually, you will have trained yourself enough & finally, you'll have developed your patience to a considerable degree in which will be to your benefit & advantage in your pursuit of success & happiness in life
Patience is not only a valuable tool to learn & have in life, but it's also a tool that God uses to test our patience in life. For example, God doesn't want to hear someone complain anymore than you want to hear someone complain. With that being said, when we complain about someone or something, it only reinforces our situation to what the situation originally was. We must understand that whatever we talk about in life & focus on becomes magnified in life. I believe that God uses tests & trials to bring "patience" into our lives because he wants us to develop a good attitude within ourselves. If we show a good attitude then, we will be the kind of person God can use, & we will become perfect & complete as time goes on, & we will lack absolutely nothing. We must understand that we have to let our "patience" do it's job to make us perfect, the way God would want us to be. Always remember, there's no rush when it comes to life, there's no, "who can obtain a car, a house, or a job, faster then the other," or "who can make more money quicker then that the next person, or "who can do this & that before the next person can," or "who can get a girlfriend or boyfriend the quickest," or, "who can lose their virginity the fastest," & so fourth. Understand that there's is nothing to be inpatient about if you let God do his trial & errors & let "patience" do it's job within us. Now, I understand that for most young teenagers, Men & Woman in this world, we all go through some sort of difficultly problems or stress in our lives do to the lack of "patience," but understand something here, sometimes Gods plan to test our patience comes from him giving us difficulties or struggles in our lives, a test that God will strive to accomplish, to achieve some kind of purpose within us. Once he achieves a purpose within us, then his purpose would be to prepare us for greater things in life. Also, keep in mind that not all difficulties or struggles in our life are from God. Many times, we can create our own difficulties or struggles by not letting "patience" do it's job within us, & when we as humans don't let "patience" do it's job, it causes us to make poor decisions in our lives, poor decisions that we normally look back & regret from time to time when we think of those hard times or struggles. The best thing we should do in this case is to ask God to help us learn from our past mistakes. Also, If we are ever facing difficulties or struggles in our life's, today, or at anytime during our lives, then we should ask God to hold us up, strengthen us, & help us learn what is it that what he is trying to teach us, that way we can become better people. We should be encouraged if things are not what we think they should be, for god has wonderful plans in each & everyone of our lives, & because of that, he may just be working on the inside of some of us right now, teaching some of us how to learn "patience." For some of us, who have learned what patience is & know how to control it, then maybe "patience" is doing it's job within us, striving to make us perfect & complete, the way God want's us to be.
I hope this information has come to use for any young teenager, Men or Woman in this world who have a short fuse, or have a lack of patience.
Always remember, if you need my help about anything, or my advice, my thoughts, some guidance, any tips, some encouragement, or inspiration, or any questions for me, or if you want to chat, please don't hesitate to message me.
P.s Thank you for your time in reading. As always, I appreciate the love & support from you all...
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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