Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
My message for those who are afraid to make a change in their lives:
Always remember, there are two powerful motivating forces of life:
1. Fear
2. Love
Let me explain the difference's between the two so I can make a point:
When us humans are afraid, we tend to pull back from life. For example, if we were we "dislike" a person simply because of their race / ethnicity, or they don't meet our "standards" or share the same similarity's or beliefs as we do. In cases like these, we tend to pull away from that person, like we want nothing to do with them anymore. At that point, we tend to avoid making contact with that person, when in reality, if we were to talk to that person for long enough, we could have made friends with that person. We could've gained something out of life from that person, or learn something from that person even if they may seem "different" to us. When we pull back from people who we deem "different" then us, that person then becomes someone who we fear, or generally speaking, can't accept. When we can't accept others for who they are, we then start to lose our true colors & our passion for others in this world because we fear only what lies behind that person. On the flip side, we tend to fear about what others people may think of us. We always think to our self's "What if he/she doesn't like me?" or, "What if I did something wrong?" or, "What if he/she doesn't feel the same way as I do?" & etc. Furthermore, we also tend to fear our bigger problems or challenges in life that we have never faced before. We always seem to fear of the outcome of the unknown. We let obstacles that we may not have faced before, get in the way of us because we fear of what the outcome might be & also because we are too comfortable with the obstacles that we are normally faced with, again, again, & again, making newer, more "different" obstacles more challenging. However, that should be nothing to fear about. We must understand that these obstacles or problems that we may have not faced before in life, may become great opportunities for us in life, opportunities that could have a life changing impact on yourself, & others. These obstacles could lead to whatever our dream may be in life one day. However, when facing these types of obstacles, they don't necessarily bring the "true colors" out in us, as we may hold back from our obstacles & fear what may lie on the other end of the obstacle, but surely, these are obstacles that come with brick walls, & that's when we let fear get the best of us. We pull back from possible opportunities, & new beginnings that life has to offer when we fear. When we have come faced with a obstacle that we "think" we can't handle, this type of "brain storming" tends to bring our low self esteem down, our self worth, our values, & only makes life less exciting, while you're feeling weaker & more fearful of the unknown that could happen at anytime. When we fear, we as humans act as if we can't give in our full potential in life. We cannot process our thought's correctly in our head or act as our normal self's.
However, when we, as humans love, we tend to open up to all that life has to offer with. That includes our passion for life, & others, our excitement & our acceptance for who we are as individuals & for other people in this world who may be different from us. When we love, we also learn how to take on & accept all the obstacles, opportunity's & blessings in this world that life may throw at us without fearing the outcome of reality. When we love, we learn how to help & love others the way God loved & helped others. When we love, we expose who we really are, from one human, to the next, without worrying about what others may think of our. We learn how to to accept others for who they are & not become fearful of somebody just because they may not think the same thoughts as us, or understand our life styles, or may not relate to that person in terms of how they have lived their own life, or how they have been raised, or what they believe in, & what their religion is & etc. When we love, we tend to show our true emotions & colors while living life. When we love, we start to realize who we truly are in this world, we tend to look at, & accept our own imperfections, making each & everyone of us unique in this world in their own way, while still maintaining a positive smile. When we love, we learn how to become fearless by loving our self's & opening up our full potential in life by approaching & taking on ANY of the greatest challenges that life has to throw at us, by smashing through the brick walls & obstacles without fearing of the unknown. For all the young teenagers, Men & Woman in this world who are fearful of the challenges that life has to offer, or fearful of someone just because they may be "different" then you are & you don't want nothing to do with that person, or you can't accept / love yourself for who you are, realize that at some point in your life, you'll need to learn that you have to love & accept yourself first, in all your glory & your imperfections that you see in yourself. If you, as an individual, cannot love yourself for who you are, & cannot bypass, or accept your own imperfections, then you cannot change your ability to open up & love others or yourself, or use your full potential in life to create an even bigger future then ever. Remember, evolution & all hopes for a better world, rest in the fearlessness & open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. Now that's a true reality.
However, It's very interesting to hear young teenagers, & Men & Woman's opinions upon "life." Life has been described by many young teenagers, Men & Woman, in different ways ranging from:
"Life is short, make it sweet."
to more serious ones like:
"life is like a dream, even before we realize it, it'll vanish."
Although those opinions may be true, realize that the various perspectives of life in general depends upon the individual person who's living that life, or how they enjoy their own life or how they live their life, whether that would be to to live life in fear, or to love. However, as a whole, this mankind of "life" is a precious gift offered to ALL us that can be lived by either fear, or love, but of course, who would want to live their whole life in fear? I'm sure nobody would. With that being said, I encourage that most young teenagers, Men & Woman use this gift of life to it's fullest potential, & to not fear what life may bring to you, whether it's an obstacle, a challenge, a blessing, an opportunity, or another person who you may encounter with at some point in your life who may seem "different" from you. We need to understand that we normally fear what we don't know & can't understand. For example, when we look at another human being, what do we know about them already? How their physical appearance looks, or what lies behind the kind of life they have lived? Think about it, as humans, we only assume to KNOW about someone by their physical appearance, but we really don't know, but at the same time we are fearful of asking questions about that person because they may be someone who we deem "different" as a whole person. Therefore, we can't seem to accept, & understand that person, & then we become fearful of that person, by avoiding them. That's an unfortunate reality. On the other hand, we tend to feel more comfortable dealing with the same old familiar problems in life, that we are normally faced with, along with the same people we encounter everyday, & our same idea's we come up with, along with our same behaviors & actions because we can relate to all of this. Most people need that feeling of belonging, but at the same time this "diverse" can't provide that to them. The reality is that some young teenagers, Men & Woman fear change & are afraid of being different, afraid of facing new challenges or problems in life, or afraid of doing things & thinking things that aren't a part of their checkerboard game of "life." We must understand that fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist, is in our thoughts of the future. It's a product of our imagination, & it causes us to fear things that aren't at present, & may not ever exist in our life's. Fear is as close to insanity, & of course, can sometimes be a "warning" sign from God as well, letting us know that danger can be very real in life, but if we put our fears in Gods hands, we will have nothing to worry about. However, If you choose to fear, you will ghost ride yourself into the same wall that life will throw at you again & again, & again causing you to live a much harder & stressful life, knowing that you cannot love yourself, or accept change, or to make choices in your life, or to open yourself to others who may be "different" from you, or to open up your full potential freely in life. If you choose not to fear & put all your fears in Gods hands, you will be able to face whatever challenges or opportunity's life has to throw at you without fear & make choices & freely open up your full potential in life, while loving & accepting yourself & others as you're living a worry free, & comfortable life with God by your side knowing that he will help guide you through your journey.
P.s The most important piece of advice is to look for God & put all your fears that you may have into the palm of his hands, knowing that you will feel more secure when he guides your life for you, while being confident of yourself, showing NO regrets in life, showing a positive smile on your face, & to always remember to love yourself first before you open & expand your passion, love, & acceptance for others, along with your excitement for many blessings & opportunity's coming your way in the future. Never fear what life may bring to your future, whether it's another human being, an obstacle, a challenge, an opportunity, a blessing, & etc. My advice is to live your life day by day knowing that God is great & loves you. He has blessed you enough to wake you up each morning, to breathe, & to see the true color's in life. In my book, that's definitely a reason why you should love yourself, smile & stay positive each day.
Thank you for your time in reading. I appreciate the love from you all.
Stay blessed & remember, God is good.
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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