Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
My strong morals & high standards:
Young teenagers, Men & Woman all around this world can judge who I am as a person all they want, but at the end of the day, their opinions don't affect me. This is what makes me who I am. I am unique & different aside from everyone else & I'll keep it real & upfront, whether you like what I have to say or not. So with that being said,
Let's begin - Questions 1 - 17
1. I don't smoke or drink. Why?
Answer: Because I choose not too. I choose not to destroy my own well being & my own health, over smoke or alcohol in my body. I care about my own health. I know who I am & I know how to say "no" from people who ask me to drink & smoke. Drinking & smoking is NOT who I am, so therefore I refuse to smoke or drink, simple as that. I refuse to drink (anywhere) that is, & I refuse to put myself around those who do drink. I also refuse to inhale others smoke from a distance or smell like smoke. If that's the case, I will walk away from that person without question. My own precious life is worth MORE then shortening my life span or attempting to ruin my own health by wanting to be associated by those who smoke, or even "inhale" others smoke into my own lungs, from a distance or wanting to put "alcohol" in my body to mess my liver, or even trying to "fit" in with others just because they may be drinking & smoking constantly. Realize that I'm not them, I'm me. My belief is that others think they're "cool" when they're drinking & smoking with their "friends" or "others," but are really being brain washed into destroying their well-being & life span by drinking & smoking in the first place, with the wrong type of people & in the wrong type of surrounding & environment. People in this world drink & smoke to fit in socially, not for the fact that these people actually "care" for their own well being & their own health, because if these people did care about themselves, they'd know darn well to stop & pause, & THINK before they act, but they don't, & that's what's sad about our generation & society as a whole. Unfortunately, it's all about peer pressure for those who start smoking & drinking, & those people who become pressured into smoking or drinking are the one's who are followers of the crowd. Where are the LEADERS at around here who aren't afraid to say "no" & admit that they have never EVER drink or smoked, with no shame? I feel as though there aren't many left, but that's just my opinion. Anyway, I have no problems if you're a smoker or drinker. If smoking & drinking is what makes you who you are, then go for it, I'm not stopping you. However, I refuse to put my own health around a smoking & drinking environment. So if you're smoking & drinking, I will most likely NOT be around you at that time, so don't be surprised. If I also may add, I think that wanting to smoke & drink in the first place is one of the stupidest decisions for really, ANYONE to make in the first place. I'm forever glad that I don't smoke or drink. I choose to live a healthy lifestyle.
2. I'm still a virgin. Why?
Answer: because I'm 100% pure & clean. I plan on staying this way & I refuse to lose my virginity until AFTER marriage. What most young teenagers, Men & Woman don't realize is that when you lose your virginity, you're playing with "FIRE." When you lose your virginity at a young age, you can no longer consider yourself "pure" anymore, but furthermore, anyone who is to lose their virginity at an early age is at risk for all kinds of disease's, or even "pregnancy". Yeah, that's nothing to mess around with, especially if you're still in high school & don't have a job to support yourself. Believe me, I'm not none of these other guys who will flirt with random Woman, & then lay up with any Woman they see. I have some respect for myself, & some dignity. I don't want to be that guy who would lay a Woman just because of her looks, then leave her the next day. I don't want to be that guy who sleeps with 2 or 3 other Woman every night, just for the sake of it. I don't want to be that guy who goes to parties just to get drunk & high & lose track of who I am. I don't want to be that guy who goes around getting other Woman pregnant & carry around STD's or other transmitted diseases. I don't want to be that guy who's labeled as a "player" type by others. I don't want to be that guy who goes around, disrespecting my own self worth & my own well being. I don't want to be that guy who loses my virginity with the wrong person. I want to be that guy who saves my virginity for the Woman that God will bring into my life. I want to be that guy who sits down with my Woman & know everything about her. I want to be that guy that finds the Woman of my life & will treat her like a princess & respect her decisions of wanting to stay a virgin until marriage, no differently then how she respects mine. I want to be that guy who she marries & spends the rest of her life with, knowing that she has made the right decision in her life. I want to be that guy who she looks at her friends & says, "Yes, that's him."
3. I don't wear baggy pants or walk around with my pants low in public. Why?
Answer: Because I have some respect for myself & others who are around me in public. I don't want to be that guy who walks around in public knowing that others can see my boxers underneath my pants. I don't want to be that guy who goes around disrespecting those around me, or disrespecting our society by being labeled as a "gangster." I also don't want to be the guy who wears baggy pants that I know are NOT my size. I have more common sense then to walk around looking like a "thug." I personally prefer to wear nice & comfortable pants that appropriately fit around my waistline & down to my feet. I refuse to be a follower with the rest of everyone else & try to walk around in public looking like a "player" type of person, that most Woman think or assume are all the same. Most young teenagers, Men & Woman wear their pants low to act cool & be a "wannabe" gangster with the rest of everyone else, but let me tell you, wearing baggy pants & having your pants low Is NOT a very classy look to have. Some young teenagers & Men get this trend of wearing "baggy pants" or having "their pants low" from TV shows & movies that they're exposed too. One day they may see someone on the "big screen" looking like a "gangster" type of person with their pants low & baggy, then the next day, these young boys & Men will want to "impersonate" what they saw on the "big screen." Also, some Men also get this trend by observing other Men in public who try to impersonate other people as well, witch then influences you to want to start impersonating others by wearing baggy pants & having your pants low like the rest of everyone else, so you "fit in" & look like a "gangster thug" when really, you're not. For all the young Men out here who wear baggy pants or walk around with their pants low, grow up & act more mature. When you want to do something like this, you're considered a follower, not a leader.
4. I don't wear the latest fashions. Why?
Answer: Because I only wear shirts, pants, shoes, that I feel comfortable in, simple as that. I personally don't care what I wear, if it's jeans, shorts, hats, sweat pants, sweat shirts, sweaters, sport pants, Adidas pants, Adidas shoes, Nike shoes, T-shirts, long sleeve shirts, short sleeve shirts, & etc. The only time I'll wear dress pants, cloths, & shoes is on special occasions. Don't get me wrong, it's always good to look classy once in a while, but I refuse to wear the "latest" fashions everyday, just to try to "impress" myself, or others in public. I mean, it's one thing if you're dressed everyday for business purposes & opportunities, or you're put into a business where you're forced to dress professionally every time you walk into work, then that's a different story, but to want to wear the latest fashions when you're at home & ready to "go out for fun" with your friends is beyond me. Wear what makes you feel comfortable, & ladies, don't wear what makes you "look" more attractive to others, because that's how creeps get on you & stare you down like a piece of meat. Then you wonder why you consider us "Men" ALL the same. However with me, I'm very simple, If I like wearing cloths that I feel comfortable in, then I will wear those cloths, regardless of what anyone else may think of me, or what I may look like in public. I personally don't care if I were to wear cloths that were 4 or 5 years old. If these shirts, pants, or shoes still fit me, then I will wear them, simple as that.
5. I don't have tattoo's all over my body. Why?
Answer: Because I refuse to mark my own flesh & blood with ink. I personally prefer not to waste my OWN money, that I work hard for, to want to go to some "tattoo" place & get "tatted" as they say, just because my "friends" or "others" I see in public, are tatted. I'm not a follower, I'm a leader. I'm none of your "friends," I'm me. Personally, I like to keep my skin fresh & pure. I personally don't care how "popular" or "good-looking" tattoo's may be. I don't care if i was the only one in this world who never got a tattoo. I don't care how tempting it may be. I don't care how many times you try to influence me & or ask me over & over & over again. You can attempt to stress me out all you want, but peer pressure does NOT work on me, so it would be a failed attempt on your end. If I don't want one, then I won't get one. I'll never get a tattoo & I stand for my words. I know who I am & what I want in life, & that's certainly not a tattoo. I refuse to change the way God has created me by wanting to get a "tattoo" just because everyone has one, & then have to live with "ink" & "marks" on my skin for as long as I live & have my tattoo or tattoo(s) "wrinkled" when I become an old man. You must be out of your mind. However, I don't have any problems with others who may have tattoo's anywhere on their body. I will not, by no means want to sit here & "judge" you based on how many tattoo's you may have, or where your tattoo's are located on your body. If that's your choice to want to get a tattoo, then that's great. I don't see nothing wrong with that at all. I personally don't like tattoo's & I'm happy that I don't have any tattoo's, so please respect my opinion.
6. I don't have piercings all over my body. Why?
Answer: Because I refuse to put holes through my own flesh & blood. Again, I'm not going to sit here & waste my own money, that I work hard for, to want to go to some place, where I let someone else (who I don't even know) pierce holes throughout my body & puff my own flesh & blood up with infections or swollen red marks just because my "friends" or "others" have piercings. Again, I'm not a follower of the crowd. I'm not your "friends." I'm not them, I'm me. If I don't want piercings, then I won't get piercings. It's as simple as that. Again, I like to keep my skin fresh & pure. Though most young teenagers, Men & Woman have ear piercings, lip piercings, nose piercings, & stomach piercings, I will forever refuse to get a piercing anywhere, period. Again, I don't care if i was the only one in this world who never got a piercing, or ANY piercing for that manner. I don't care how tempting it may be. I don't care how many times you try to influence me & or ask me over & over & over again. Like I said, you can attempt to stress me out all you want, but at the end, peer pressure does NOT work on me, so again, it would be a failed attempt on your end. As I said before, I stand for my words. I know who I am & what I want in life & that certainly doesn't include getting piercings. Again, I refuse to change the way God has created me by wanting to get some silly piercings just for the fact that everyone else has one. Once again, I have no problems with others who may have piercings (wherever) on their body. It's your choice to do whatever you want to your body, even if that means getting "tatted" or wanting 1,2,3,4,5 or how many ever "piercings" on your own body. I will not sit here & "judge" anyone based on how many piercings they have & where they have them. I personally don't like piercings & I'm glad I don't have any. But again, I prefer my opinion to be respected.
7. I don't use physical violence towards any young teenager, Men or Woman. Why?
Answer: Because I choose to handle my situations a little more better then most people do. When I was young, my parent's always told me to use self defense against myself if someone where to physically hit me. However, I stood against what my parent's said & I've never used self defense before, no matter how tempting it was, no matter what others may thought of me. Whether I was called a "sissy" or a "little girl" for my sensible actions, I've always stood strong for myself & ate those words. I wouldn't care enough to want to "fight" anyone, & still, to this day. Fighting will NOT solve anything in life. Fighting is what ends you up in Prison & jail, for your stupid actions. Fighting is NOT what makes me, me. I'm against physical violence, period. I've never put my hands on anyone in this world. I was never a fighter to begin with throughout my years of education. I've never got in trouble in school, I've never got expelled, & I've never had detention for using physical violence on school property, or anywhere in public. If it's one thing you should know about me, it's that I'm a lover, I like to work situations out the mature way, without the punching, the slapping, the hair pulling, the choking, & all that stupid stuff. I don't like to be violent towards anyone period. I don't, & never will put my hands on ANY Man or Woman. I myself, have never got into ONE physical fight what so ever in my life with anyone. I stand against my words, & you're probably saying right about now, "How, not even ONE physical fight?" My answer is no, because I know I am more mature then most of these "idiots" now a days who want to use physical violence to solve their problems. I know how to approach a situation in this manner without physical violence. The mature way to handle physical violence would be to walk away from that person & not say a word, or to talk it out with that person, or even if that means trying to settle agreements little by little until you come to a agreement or a conclusion, or even if the conclusion means taking a break from not seeing each other, or just simply "moving on" as they say, & never seeing that person again.
8. I don't go around & bully others in any way, shape, or form. Why?
Answer: Because bullying others is NOT the kind of person I am. Why would I want to bully anyone in the first place? Are my actions really worth hurting others emotionally or physically, by wanting to harass them repetitively, or using "cyber bullying" to taunt them with hate messages, words, & lies about that person? Why would I want to bring others in this world down, & make them feel like they aren't worthy of life? Why would I want to make anyone commit suicide over the decision of wanting to become a bully to that person? Why would I EVER want go around saying to myself, ""oh, well this person seems like an easy target to pick on. Let's try it." Why would I even want to WALK up to anyone, without knowing them, only to PHYSICALLY put my hands on really, ANYONE in public by threatening them or taking their personal belongings away from them whenever I see them? Why would I want to "overpower" anyone & feel like I'm invincible to them, when in reality I'm not? I'm the exact opposite of everything I've just said. My actions would NOT be worth the cost of hurting others emotionally or physically. My actions are NOT worth cyber bullying others & harassing & taunting others with hate words, messages, & lies, only to bring their low self esteem down & mark a bag image of them. My actions are NOT worth spreading lies about others & marking a bad image upon their self's. My actions are NOT worth taking over someones life over the decision of being a bully. My actions are NOT worth walking up to anyone & becoming violent of my own actions by physically putting my hands on them & asking for their belongings. My actions are NOT worth overpowering, or "defeating" anyone in this world. I treat everyone I see equally & with respect. No differently from the next person I encounter with in life. Nobody deserves to be treated any differently then the rest of us. In this world, we are ALL created equally & demand to be treated equally, & if you're someone who disagrees, well then you just watch until reality sinks in for you. For those who bully others, you need to find something more productive & more educated to do in your life's.
9. I don't go around in public saying the N word. Why?
Answer: Because I choose not to & I don't like saying it. I've NEVER said the N word throughout my entire life. Of course, I've heard the word come out of many people's mouth before, In which, is extremely rude & ignorant to the public, & to your self as a person. The N word has never offended me before, due to the fact that I know who I am, so therefore all words aiming towards myself become irrelevant. First of all, saying the N word is extremely disrespectful & uncalled for, (for any race) especially when you're walking around in public on a casual day, shouting the N word, like it's any other casual word of the vocabulary language. I don't care how you justify it, using the "N" word is unacceptable in my book. Using the N word doesn't make you sound "cool," but rather makes you seem racist in public. The only people who abuse the N word in a casual way or in "hate way" are those who are uneducated upon finding better ways to respond or communicate to someone or something in public, rather then having little kids, young teenagers, Men & Woman around you in public, listen to your uneducated words coming out of your mouth. People need to show some respect towards their own race & to their self's & others. When you say the N word, it marks an imagine on the type of person you are, because your actions speak for it's self. These are the people who need to THINK before they act or say something offensive to another individual or groups of people. There's no question about that.
10. I don't swear to myself or in the public. Why?
Answer: Because It's ignorant to the public & disrespectful to yourself & others who may feel offended. Swearing is a tool for whiners & complainers & is a sign that they have a bad attitude & it also reflects towards their own ignorance, but furthermore, swearing is immature & set's a bad example to society. Swearing can also lead to violence if used in a certain tone or mood (That's mostly why I hate swearing) Anyway, most people may think that "swearing" is just a word, but your actions will also tell others a lot about you as an individual. In my opinion, people who swear, normally lack the vocabulary to express their self with conventional, more accepted words. They also lack their self control to refrain from swearing. I also believe that they lack concern for others who may be offended by their words, & when people swear, it makes them appear to be an uneducated, out of control type of individual. It makes you an unpleasant to be around with, when you swear the way you do in public. Again, it's ignorant to society & it marks a bad image on your own character & who you are. In my eyes, swearing is seen as a sign of someone being "lower class" & not very articulate or well educated, & unable to find a better way to express themselves & generally disrespectful to the other people around them. I'm a Christian, & I believe that Christians are not meant to be running around acting like certifiable nutcases, but we are meant to live wise, holy lives that look different from those of non-Christians around us because we are filled with love & peace. That kind of life doesn't leave room for cursing & profanity.
11. I don't curse to myself or in the public. Why?
Answer: Because i find it VERY ignorant to the public & disrespectful to yourself & others. First of all, when you curse, you're actually hurting yourself more than the person you're cursing too, & second, it won't do you any good to curse, it will actually be bad for you, because the more you curse, the more repetitive it will become in your mind, making "curse words" appeal more common to you in the English vocabulary & as you speak to others in the public. Also, when you curse, there could be young children present. You can never be sure who hears you, so with that being said, do you really need to curse in public? Would you honestly sit here & tell me that you could respect someone who can’t control his / her's mouth? Saying Curse words will make you seem immature & childish in other people’s eyes. It doesn’t make you sound “cool” when you curse. Cursing at someone is rude & inconsiderate & it just makes you sound uneducated upon your own words & actions. I personally don't prefer to be associated with people who constantly curse. I'm a true Christian & I could honestly say that I have never said any curse words in my life. That's just not the kind of guy I am. Always remember that God is listening to your every word & wouldn't like you, or anyone to curse. He would become disappointed when you curse or you use his name in vain. Again, let me say, I believe that Christians are not meant to be running around acting like certifiable nutcases, but we are meant to live wise, holy lives that look different from those of non-Christians around us because we are filled with love & peace. That kind of life doesn't leave room for cursing & profanity.
12. I don't go out to any parties & clubs. Why?
Answer: Because I choose not too. I choose not to put myself around that type of environment, especially a loud environment. I choose not to put myself around crowds of people that I don't know. I don't like to overwhelm myself around hundreds of mindless people who do nothing but try to act "cool" & fit in with "others" while doing stupid things like wanting sex from other young Woman by drinking alcohol & becoming drunk & high off smoke. That's all parties involve now a days, from both genders: Drinking, smoking, & having sex. I've never understood why some people want to waste their own money on drinks, then the next day brag about how drunk they have been or how high they got or how many times they threw up "that day" & "this day" of the party" & etc. It's stupid to want to go to a party or club to drink & get high, just to "slave" off the boredom. In my opinion, there is nothing "fun" about parties. There's nothing "fun" about having loud music, to the point where I can't even hear myself, or become literally death. There's nothing "fun" about having conversations if you can't hear yourself speak. There's nothing "fun" about drinking bottles of alcohol. There's nothing "fun" about smoking. There's nothing "fun" about wanting to fit in socially with others, if that's NOT what makes you who you are. I'm more mature for my age, therefore I could be doing better things, socially with my family, or with my friends & still have a good time. I much prefer a quiet, thoughtful, intelligent conversation over some water or ice tea, or a dinner or picnic, than some mindless, loud, drunken party where mindless people are constantly throwing up & passing out. Unfortunately, people who prefer meaningful interaction with their fellow human beings are few & far between. I've personally never been to ANY high school type of parties, or ANY of type of party throughout my years of school. I was never interested in parties to begin with. I'm glad I don't attend any parties. They're a waste of my time & I personally think they're overrated & pointless. I don't need to attend a party to have "fun." There are other, more productive ways of doing so, that don't include loud music, crowds of mindless people, bottles of alcohol, smoking, sex, or fights breaking out.
13. I'm very quiet in public & I don't talk too much. Why?
Answer: Because I choose to silent at times in my life. I'm drama free, & have been drama free all throughout my years of school, so therefore I don't interact much in public. I don't put myself around crowds of people I don't know, I stay my distance. I don't talk to, or hang out with groups of people I don't know all at once. I stand myself aside. I don't put myself around this type of surrounding. That is not to say that I'm not enjoying life as I should, or that I'm unhappy with who I am, because that's not true. I love myself & my decisions that I make in life. Being quiet is a choice that I've made. Of course, if I wanted to be a loud mouth I could, but I refuse too. I'm more of a 1 on 1 type of guy when hanging out & being social around others who I don't know. For me, I rather sit down in a nice, quiet, peaceful environment with somebody 1 on 1 & have a discussion with them that way, instead of interacting & walking around in public being a loud & obnoxious person while hanging with a crowd or group of people who I don't know. When I'm in public by myself, I can become a very quiet loner, but very observant guy when I look at how our generation & society is today. Though I may not talk much in public, I get time to enjoy my own company & have time to think to myself. People who I've been around my whole life with, & throughout all my years of school, or random strangers, may know me or label me as a quiet, whist, silent, low pitched, peaceful type of guy in person when being spoken too, or being around others, then start to question me about my quietness, which is normal, but let me ask each & everyone of you out there, who may be a little more dramatic, energetic & more suspenseful then I am, a few questions. In your quiet moments, what do you think about? How far you've come, or how far you have to go? Your strengths, or your weaknesses? The best that might happen, or the worst that might come to be? In your quiet moments, each & everyone of you should pay attention to your thoughts, because maybe, just maybe, the only thing that needs to shift in order for you as a individual to experience more happiness, more love & more vitality, is you're way of thinking.
14. I choose not to have a lot of real life friends. I only have 1 real life friend. Why?
Answer: Because I don't need a lot of real life friends to keep me happy. I choose not too. I'm drama free. I don't have to deal with the immature non sense behavior like most people do. I don't need the extra 5,10,20,30 friends. I don't need the excessive drama from one person, to the next person, to the next person, to the next person & etc. I don't need hundreds of friends to live a happy life. If I love myself, then what's it matter? I only have 1 real life friend who I see in person & interact with in person, & that's all I need to keep me happy. They're a friend who accept me for who I am. They're a friend who has never left my back since I've met them. They're a friend who I can see in person & laugh with & have a good time with, doing things we like to do together, even if it's the most simplest things. They're a friend who will always be there for me, through thick in thin. I could honestly say, with no shame what so ever, that I could live my entire life off of having 1 or 2 real life friends & still be a social individual & a happy person. When my 1 friend is not around, I tend to enjoy my own company & stay quiet, yet do something productive with myself. I love myself, my family & I'm grateful for the true friend I have by my side & that's ALL that matters. Believe me, I'm none of these other young teenagers, Men & Woman who need hundreds of friends just to keep their self's occupied, happy & social. I'm not them, I'm me. I will admit though, I have more social media friends who I meet all around the world, then real life friends who I can see in person. They're people I talk too & help out with their problems in life through social media. They're people who look up to me for advice & help, inspiration & a role model to look up too (hence my novels I write on Facebook) But anyway, In person, I only have 1 friend & that's all I need. I'm happy & I'm also happy with myself. It's good to know that when I don't interact much in public, that I can look towards social media & interact with other people all around the world who I may not even be able to see, but rather chat with them, make new connections with them, & be their online friend in the end, rather then wanting to "fit" in & make 5,10,20,30 real life friends & having to dealing with the excessive drama & the immature behavior. Quite frankly, I prefer family over friends any day. With that being said, I REFUSE to fit in with others around here & "become" their friend. I'm more smarter then that. A couple of real life friends that make me happy & satisfy me is all I need in my life & nothing more.
15. I speak my mind. Why?
Answer: Because if nobody else will step up to the plate, & tell things the way it is, then who will? I write what my mind speaks. Though I may be loner who's quiet & very observant in public, I WILL speak my mind when something needs to be heard, whether it's the truth, or my own opinion. Whether you like it, hate it, or love it, your thought's have no effect on me as a individual. I'm a strong Christian Man, who believes in the power of God. I stand up for my faith & what I believe in. I know who I am. I'm me. So of course, if I have something to say, don't doubt that I won't come out of my shell & speak up for myself. As you can see, I may not be perfect, but I'm my own person. I'm my own character. I'm different from everyone else & I am comfortable & very loving of myself for who I am as a person & what I do to help others with their own problems. Again, I'll speak my mind about anything that comes to heart, if I'm speaking the truth, or my own opinion. I like to share my knowledge with others out here in this world about my own personal beliefs & experiences that I've gone through, whether they'd be good or bad. I like to thoroughly write about myself, or about a certain topic, such as typical depression, our teenage generation, our oversexed society, teenage relationships, smoking & drinking, & etc, in my free time, so others can really see the kind of person I REALLY am. I like to expose myself out here in public, whether it'd be in person One on One, or on social media, which I'm good at because I believe I can write in a very well proper, but understandable manner, to where people can understand exactly where I'm coming from. This is what makes me, me. I'm comfortable with who I am as a person & what I do & what I write about in public & no one's opinion towards me will differ otherwise.
16. I help give advice, encouragement, guidance & inspiration to others through social media / in person 1 on 1. Why?
Answer: Because this world needs more encouragement & definitely more leaders & less followers, that's what it really comes down too in today's society. We need more positive leaders who can set good examples for others by encouraging, inspiring, influencing & guiding others with their problems & explaining to them, right from wrong in life, whether you're explaining to them in person or through social media, which in fact, is a very powerful source to use when trying to help others. This is one of my passions, it's something I love doing when I get the chance too. I truly care about the people I help. I want to inspire & open the eyes of as many people as I can, to hopefully make a difference in the people I help. My motivation for writing what I write, & talking about real life problems is to let other young teenagers, Men & Woman in this world know that there are still good people in this world who want to make a difference & help others as well, to better them self's. I choose to be a role model for most young adults because I set myself aside from everybody else to show that I'm different from your average guy & that I'm my own person & my own unique character. Read through my previous status's & will find out quickly, who I am. I'm 100% dedicated into what I do to help others. I remain confident & stay true to myself at all times. I'm glad I don't fit in with everyone else around here. I rather stand out of the crowd, then try to fit in, & be someone I'm not. I'm a leader, not a follower. I like to set examples for young Men & Woman & reach out to those who look up to me for advice & help through social media. I mainly use my words through social media to guide, influence & open the eyes of others with positive thoughts. For this, I've become a role model for some, & I plan on continuing to become a role model to more people as time progresses.
17. My life is an example of a Christian. Why?
Answer: Because my actions speak for itself. I'm a man who has grown up very maturely during childhood. I learned how to value my faith & my own self-worth. Since I was a little kid, I have built a moral foundation of moralities for myself. I grew up picturing the kind of person I want to be one day, with strong morals & values for himself, & guess what? I have exactly that. First of all, I don't attend college. College isn't for me. I work a full time cleaning service downtown & I take pride in my work. I have a strong work ethic & I'm quite good at what I do. I don't complain about what I do or how much money I make. Education doesn't buy myself happiness & neither does money. Education is only a choice that I choose to make & therefore, my happiness & overall success does not depend on attending school or making a lot of money. Aside from that, I'm a proud 24 year old virgin, who's 100% pure & clean & has kept his vows to stay a virgin until after marriage. Meaning, I do believe in sex after marriage. If there's any temptation to have sex, it will not work because I have put up a barrier. Why? Because I value my virginity. I want to save my virginity for the Woman that God will bring into my life. I know my limits as to what I can & can't do. Aside from virginity, I'm someone who barely has any real life friends. I'm a loner for the most part. I've been told I'm boring, but I don't complain. I'm happy I don't have to deal with so many loud & obnoxious people. I love myself & I enjoy my own company. Quite frankly, I prefer family over friends any day. With that being said, I don't have drama with anyone. I'm 100% drama free. I don't put myself around groups of people I don't know, I stay my distance. I don't talk too, or hangout around hundreds of people I don't know all at once. I stand myself aside. I prefer a quiet, peaceful surrounding where I could talk to someone I don't know 1 on 1, instead of putting myself in a noisy, loud & obnoxious environment with crowds of people I don't know all at once. Other then that, when I'm by myself, I become a very silent loner who's very observant of others actions in public. Furthermore, I'm not a flirt, I don't flirt with Woman or try to "impress" myself in front of any Woman. I'm not a "boobies" & "butt" kind of guy. I could care less what you have or how you look. However, I do have my own "kinks" & "fetishes" then & there, but nothing over the top. I'm a very peaceful guy who knows the type of personality he's looking for in a Woman & I don't settle for less. That being said, I don't interact much in public. I was quiet all throughout my Elementary, Middle & High school years. I've never been to a prom before. I never had a prom date my entire life. Also, I don't join parties, clubs, or bars. I hate parties, clubs & bars. They're pointless, ghetto & nothing but trouble. I will never attend one, ever. You may judge me & say I'm insecure at times, but I'm fully aware of my surroundings & who I'm with at all times. With that being said, I'm very cautious of my health. I don't smoke anything, drink anything, not even wine, or do any kind of bad drugs at all. Never have never will. I don't put alcohol in my system, never have never will. I'm 100% clean. I also don't do anything to harm or hurt myself, I'm very sensitive, I don't like pain, I don't have piercings or tattoo's on my flesh & blood, I refuse too. I don't wear baggy cloths or wear my pant's low. It's ignorant to the public, & to yourself & others. I don't wear the latest fashions, just something I feel comfortable in. I don't care what anyone may think of me in public, based on what I wear. In addition to that, I don't curse at all to anyone. Never have never will. It's ignorant to the public & disrespectful to yourself & others. I'm respectful & educated when I choose how I want to speak my words. I also don't swear to myself, or publicly to anyone. Never have never will. I don't say the N word in public or to myself. It's disrespectful to yourself, to others & It's immoral. I'm not a loud mouth in public, I don't talk much. I'm very quiet in public & shy around people I don't know, but once we get to talk 1 on 1, I open up. I'm a soft spoken guy with a deep, comfortable voice when I'm talking casual. I'm not a social butterfly in public, with the exception of my family who I spend time with. At times I can have a sense of humor & entertain. I don't get depressed, I don't have a low self-esteem, I don't get angry or upset nor do I show any of these emotions at all in public or to myself. I'm always happy no matter what, whether I'm helping someone, talking to my friend, eating my favorite food, watching my favorite TV shows, taking pictures, & etc. I'm a fairly outgoing person, but I'm not a wild type of guy. I'm always calm for the most part. When having discussions, I'm never hardheaded, as I'll sit through & listen to anyone until they're finished speaking. When waiting, I'm never inpatient, as I'll wait for however long I have too for anything, I don't complain, I'm easygoing. I don't have anger problems. I don't put my hands on anyone, I don't fight, I'm never violent. I'm a lover. I refuse to use physical violence to solve ANY problem I'm faced with. I like to work my problems out the mature way & come to a conclusion / agreement. I'm not immature in public or in front of others, I know what's right from wrong. I walk away from immature people who aren't willing to cooperate with me, respect me, or present a mature attitude towards me & etc. I'm just going to walk away without question. With that said, I don't criticize, stereotype, or judge others in any way, shape, or form based on beliefs, opinions, Ethnicity, religion & etc. I respect & accept others for who they are & what they believe in, no matter what I may think of that person. I learn how to respect & accept others in this world who they are. Also, I'm not the clingy type of person. I respect others privacy. If you ask for space, you will be given your space without question, until you're ready to come talk to me again. I don't disrespect others privacy or intend to hurt them emotionally by wanting to "jump in" their own business when I have no right too. That's disrespectful & unacceptable. I treat everyone I see equally & with respect, no differently from the next person I encounter with. I was raised my by parents to use proper manners, politeness & behavior, & that's how I plan to live the rest of my life. I'm never dishonest to anyone neither. Whether you're telling the truth about yourself or lying in front of me, I'll still keep it 100% anyway. I tell it like it is whether you like it or not. I don't think highly about myself, I'm just a very quiet, calm & up-front guy when need be. I stand up for my own faith & what I believe in. I know who I am. I'm me. I refuse to fit in with everyone else around here. I rather stand out, then fit in & be someone I'm not. I'm a leader, not a follower. I remain confident & stay true to myself. Again, I speak my mind when something needs to be said, if it's the truth or my own opinion. Whether you like it or hate it, it has no effect on me as a individual. I reach out to people who look up to me for advice & help through social media. I have a blog website that I use to mentor those who need their faith restored. I use my powerful words through social media to help guide, encourage, influence & inspire others with positive thoughts.
There are young teenagers, Men & Woman who I meet online all around the world, on the east coast, west coast, even in the UK, & some random people who I may not even know who live in places as far as China & Tokyo. People who might live thousands of miles away from me, people who I may not be able to see in person, ever, but they're people who I take my own time out to try to help to give advance, guidance, encouragement & inspiration to help them with whatever problems they may have in life through social media. I help these people whenever I can, with whatever resources I have in front of me. I choose to take my own time out whenever I can to help guide, encourage, influence & inspire others to not do things they will most likely regret in life, or problems that they have gone through & have had a terrible experience while growing up, whether it comes down to relationship problems, smoking problems, drinking problems, drug problems, physical violence problems, cyber bullying problems, depression problems, life crisis problems, & etc. Now, I'm no expert, but everything I just mentioned above about the type of problems people have come up to me about, I've seen & witnessed it all in person & on social media. I've learned a lot of things about these type's of problems, from the kinds of stories people have came up to me about & I've also witnessed most of these problems with my own eyes as well, but never chose to interact or get myself involved in any of that bad stuff. For example, smoking, drinking, drugs, violence, depression, & etc. As you all may know, I'm only here to share my thoughts & to help others with their problems, that's what it comes down too, & that's the goal for me. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people in this world who don't care for others & only worry about their self's, so just be grateful that there are still great people in this world who don't do others "wrong" but rather willing to help others by guiding, encouraging, influencing & inspiring others on their own time to try to make a positive influence on them, for the better. Even if it's through social media websites, Facebook status's, text messaging, through a video, or even through a phone, or even in person if you happen to live close by to them. The reality of it is folks, is that most Men & Woman think they can handle their own situations & think they're "know it all's" when it comes to real life situations, but let's be honest here, nobody is perfect. I know some people won't like hearing this, but sometimes in life when all else fails, all it takes is somebody to give you a hand when you fall down, to pick you back up & get you moving on your feet again by yourself.
So, with ALL these questions & explanations being said, I choose to stay happy & up-front about my own personal beliefs & opinions, all the time, even in public, because life's not worth caring about what others may think of you. Only I truly know who I am in this world, so you can either take me as I am or & watch me fade away as I go. But remember, no matter what I say or do, or no matter what anyone may think of me, In the end only God can judge me. Everyone else in this world just happens to be witnesses. God is good...
P.s Thanks for your time in reading. I appreciate everything. Stay blessed...
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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