Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
My message to young teenagers, Men & Woman who are on the edge of suicide:
First of all, this is a VERY serious message that should be heard all across the world, for suicide is a VERY extreme, dangerous act, and many, MANY people have been either affected by somebody else's suicide, or have become a victim of suicide themselves. Or, you could possibly be on the edge of suicide as you're reading this. For ANYONE who is reading this, if you know of someone who is on the edge of suicide, please, I encourage you to share my message with them. You might change the way they look at life & ultimately, save their life, which is the goal here.
So let me explain:
If you're suicidal, I understand that you might have thoughts in your head to commit suicide for lots of reasons. Maybe a break-up, no money, no one loves you, you might be going through a divorce, or you might be suffering from an illness, whether it's clinical depression or anxiety or so on & so forth. Sometimes you may feel like you aren't loved & you are unwanted in the world. Other times you may be severely depressed & feel like you can't live with yourself anymore. If you're having problems in school & you're being made fun of & teased constantly for your weight, or size, or defects, & so forth, this can lead to suicide too. You also might feel suicidal because you may have been rejected in your life a lot of times, by either someone you loved or had loved, or even by a job opportunity that has shut you down & that can also lead to suicide as well. There are many, many reasons why you may feel suicidal, but the truth is that you want to end it all because you have given up hope on having a successful life. In other words, things are not working out for you. Am I right? Believe it or not, what you may feel or may be going through in your life can be pretty common for your age, so please continue to read.
The fact of the matter is, you may feel as though there's nobody by your side in your deepest times, but chances are that there are so many good people out there who may or may not know you as a person, but still care enough for you to want to see you make the right decisions in your life because they don't want to see a life lost. You need to realize that there are ALWAYS people in your life that do/will care about you. You didn't grow up, learn to talk, walk, feed yourself, & learn all by yourself; someone helped you along the way be it a parent, two parents, brother or sister, teacher or friend, or maybe just a Good Samaritan of the town who you came across. The point is that there is someone out there who cares about you. Someone who, when they hear of your suicide, they will never forget what you've done. Someone who will be so traumatized & emotionally driven up by your actions, that their own lives will be changed forever because of you. That person could be a complete stranger to you at this moment, who heard about your suicide through the news, internet, friend of a friend, or who discovered your body or was responsible for caring for your body after death. You might have taken away your own life, but you've created a ripple effect which will affect the lives of others indefinitely. Whether you like it or not, you will be hurting people who cared, or could have cared about you, in a way which nobody deserves to be hurt.
If you are still not convinced that someone cares about you, call the National Suicide Prevention Hot line at 1 (800) 273-8255. Those people do care & are there 24/7 for help & support. Or go to any institution in your area that values life (any religious/spiritual institution even a local hospital). Still not convinced? If all else fails & you find yourself unable to connect with those resources, know I care about you which is why I have taken the time to write this for YOU. YOU are here for a reason.
I understand that some people are simply emotionally & willfully stronger than you are, but that does NOT make you a weaker person than anyone in this world. For example, others may have a problem in life, but instead, they deal with the problem, suck it up, & move on, knowing that there's a lot more ahead of them than just that one problem they have faced. Other people like yourself may not be as strong when they look at the problem, & will believe that that's where their life ends, that that problem has brought their life down to the ground. So there's no point in living & feeling the pain anymore. Unfortunately, they only see that present moment & only the parts of their future that would be affected by the problem. They don't look at the future outside the problem, & because of that, they don't see the vast amount of opportunities lying ahead of them, & they don't see that there are many more opportunities that can occur within their life. It's a bit depressing that at times these people are unable to be told these kinds of things, so they might reconsider committing suicide. However, I am here to try to help you the best I can, with all I can.
Listen, before you make the choice to end your life or not, stop & give it a thought for a second. Have you ever stopped & thought about the concept of life? How is it that you're here, on this planet, & that you can think, walk, breathe & see for yourself? That you can touch something? To feel the way it is? To have freedom in your life & explore the world with your eyes & see life's nature at its finest? Isn't life just marvelous? If it's not marvelous, then doesn't it at least make you stop & wonder? You must understand that we're all here in this world, & that we are all capable of making our own decisions. However, it's never a good thing to let your mind rule your soul, for God has put you on this earth for a reason, & that's because he has a plan within you, but you also must understand that life is a gift from God. If you keep thinking to yourself that you aren't worthy of life, & you keep degrading yourself, then are you going to get anywhere in life? I know it's tough right now, I know how you feel, I know it hurts, I know you will cry, I know you will want to give up, but through God, you do have the strength to fight through anything, you just have to believe. Even if you do not believe in God, believe that you can do a lot to change how the world around you treats you, but in order to do that you must make the first step to do so. You can always improve your life in some way, shape, or form, but committing suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, & once you do it, there is no going back. I understand that sometimes life may seem too boring with nobody by your side or too stressful for you to live in with all the temptation & stress out there in this world, but you must sit down with yourself & think of the good times you had, & will have, & the people who have loved you in the past, or currently love you, or those who will love you in the future. Also remember everyday there is an opportunity to explore life's nature, & to meet new people & to get to learn more about other people to get an idea of what life is really about, so that you understand the concept of life. You should be thankful that God has given you this wonderful life to live & breathe. The least you'd want to do is cut your life shorter than it already will be. I promise you that life is precious, & eventually in time you will come to that realization as well. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next year, but someday it will come & you will see life is a wonderful gift, & to destroy it without using it to bless or bring good things upon yourself, acknowledging what you do have & what's to come in your future, is a complete waste. Why? Because you're playing God. In other words, you're choosing when you should die, instead of God choosing when it's your time to leave. If you don’t believe in God, you are still cheating yourself out of precious time here on Earth, cutting your time short.
Although suicide may satisfy you, just think of what would happen to those people who love you if you end your life. Nobody wants to see you die. If you commit suicide, you will hurt not only God if you believe, but everyone around you -- your parents, friends, loved ones, & everyone else who you ever came across in your life. They will have to mourn the loss of you on this Earth. Realize that the second you commit suicide, it is no longer about yourself, or the pain you were put in. It's about the other people, the people that will forever have to suffer through a lifetime wondering what they could have done to prevent your death from happening. If you feel suicidal, you really need to think about all the effort that has gone into your life, as well as your parents, friends, & family, for they would have to spend the rest of their life suffering from your actions, & the hardest thing to comprehend is the fact that it is so easy to end your life within a matter of seconds.
Look, I know sometimes it feels like life is pointless, & that you simply have no strength to take the next step, but the truth is that life is hard for everyone, & if anyone were to tell you otherwise, then they are a liar, because nothing is ever easy in life for any of us. Even when you’re at the peak of “happiness” you may still find life hard or have struggles. You may feel like maybe it would be best to just take everything all away & just end your life because you think it’ll solve everything, but you need to stop & think about what suicide really is. Within a blink of an eye you can be seen alive, & then be gone in an instant.
I want you to think to yourself for a minute: Where do you want to go in your life, & do you really not want to be in existence on this Earth anymore? If you commit suicide, you will really get screwed over in Hell for Eternity, for you must understand that Heaven & Hell are real, & how you live your life does matter. Even if you do not believe in Heaven & Hell, you will cheat your soul, the core of all our beings, out of learning the lessons you intentionally came here to learn. Life should be viewed as a learning experience, & once you make the realization that nothing is neither “good” nor “bad” & everything happens for you & not to you, your views on the “challenges” you face will change dramatically. In other words, you will see the “challenge” is an opportunity to learn a lesson for your own growth & development. If you do not believe in the existence of a soul, I urge you to explore what you believe is the driving force behind bringing life to your physical body. More importantly, if you have not thought about what is to come after you end this life I definitely urge you to explore that concept. Willfully entering into that unknown space should not sound like an appealing idea for you DON’T know if you will be doomed to Hell for all Eternity, be stuck in Purgatory, forced to come back to life here on Earth in a more “challenging” position than you were before, left stuck wandering this Earth has a tormented soul in pain & despair & so forth. The possibilities are endless. Your choice boils down to this: Intentionally, trade what you know here on Earth (& can potentially change to make for a better life) for a permanent opportunity to enter into the unknown where you have no clue what will happen. Choosing life should sound like a better option I would hope.
Suicide is definitely not the solution to any problem. Why? Because life can be a beautiful thing if you just be yourself & start loving yourself for all that you are. You must understand that only time can heal all wounds, & although you may be very upset or angry right now, & you may not want to live anymore, you must think of the greater picture. How would your parents feel if they walked in & saw you dead? Could you deal with them being heartbroken & crying? What about your friends? Grandparents? Relatives? Loved ones? What about all the experiences you would have given up? First trip abroad? Summer vacations? Your first & last Love? Your future kids? Your future family? Your future wedding? A good job? Your future car? Your Prom? Graduating? The way I look at it is that suicide is a very selfish act. When people commit suicide, oftentimes they don't stop & consider all of the people they'd leave behind, or the opportunities they may miss out on life when they get older.
Look, you were born for a reason. You’re here for a reason. You only get one life, so why not use life to its advantage & enjoy the nature of life? Why end it early when you can change your state of mind & live for many, many more years blissfully? Why choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem? I want you to look into the future, 10 years from now, 20 years from now, & think to yourself: Will I be the same person? Within the next 10 to 20 years, think to yourself: Do you see love, happiness, peace? Or do you see hate, sadness, & despair? Either way you look at it, you are alive & can begin this change whenever you like, for there is no time limit in this crazy world we call "life," but you can start living the life you want whenever you want, for you only have one life to live, & if you live it right, once should be enough, for there is so much beauty & love in this world, & you must understand that your home is not the world, your school is not the world, your parents are not the world, your friends are not the world, money is not the world. YOU are the world. YOU are your own reality & YOU create it however you like. Believe me, the love & the change in yourself is there. You just have to make the effort to search for it. The point is that you're alive to make a difference within yourself & in the world in general. Maybe that change just hasn't come for you yet, but I promise you that's what is in store for you, is a plan that will bring many opportunities your way that will change the way you look at life for the better.
Also, if you know there's something wrong with yourself & you know you have a problem, why not make it your priority to fix it? Speak up about it. If you have to, try talking to a stranger who doesn't know you at all or talk to someone who you can trust & have a relationship with, or if you’re not comfortable with speaking out loud, then write about how you feel on a sheet of paper or type how you feel on the computer screen & share it with others through the internet to get your thoughts across that way, or do whatever you feel is most comfortable to you to get your thoughts out to others so that they can hear you out on what your problems are. Doing this will release your emotions out of your system & clear your mind of all thoughts in your head. Although you may have released your emotions & have expressed a lot of problems in life that you may be going through, realize that 9 times out of 10 that these problems you have don't seem to measure to what others in this world are facing; you may even realize that your problems may be very small in comparison & that you are very blessed that your problems are not as bad as what others are facing, which will make you feel better about yourself & will raise your self-esteem. Bottom line, it could always be worse. However, when dealing with your problems, learn to deal with the problems that you face one at a time, & do not attempt to take in all your problems all at once, because that will only cause more stress & depression on yourself, causing emotions to build up which then starts to control your thoughts & how you process them. It is best to try to take each problem one at a time & see the positive side in each particular issue. Treat each problem as a challenge for you to overcome, & you will feel better about yourself once you have completed each challenge. To overcome your challenges, use your mind to find solutions to your problems & find ways to develop your strength and character, for life is too short not to take advantage of it. You may think, "Well life is too short to do anything good on this earth, for we will die eventually." Listen, I know that we will all die one day, but understand that it doesn't matter how you die, or when you die, it's about how you spend your time on this earth when you're alive, so it's best to make good use of it while you can. If you’re struggling with your problems or emotions, do whatever you can to improve yourself, your surroundings, & the lives of people around you. To help yourself, find a couple of hobbies that you enjoy doing, hang out with friends or strangers more, work out in the gym about once a week to make yourself feel good & look good, & try to avoid idle time at all costs. This will all help keep you in a happier state of mind. Of course people will always judge you, or have their thoughts about you, or may not like you, but understand that it's YOUR choice to either live your life with their expectations or live your OWN life & DON'T give a damn about what anybody else thinks. However, I can promise that if you can love yourself first, before anyone else, & you carry yourself on in life with a positive attitude, then eventually things will get better. I also promise that more people care about you than you think, & I promise that you will be missed when you leave this world. It is true that in the long run, life will always have its ups & downs, but also in the long run, you will learn how to build yourself & learn from them to better yourself & to be yourself, to open your heart to everything, to have fun doing what you love doing, or hanging out with, & to be there for your family & friends, & loved ones because they need you, & that's what life is truly about. Life's not about how many things you accomplish, or how much money you have, or what you can or can't afford, or how rich or poor you are, or what others think of you. It's about being yourself, loving yourself, loving others, opening yourself up, making new connections with others, & enjoying nature at its finest. That's what life is REALLY about, so please enjoy it while you can, because you never know when your time is up.
Please, PLEASE don't kill yourself. It's not worth it. You're smarter than what you think you are; you just need to hear the truth from somebody who will be there to support you, respect you, & accept you for who you are. If by any chance you need to speak with me personally about your problems, or what you're going through, then please contact me. That's all I'm asking from you, is 1 message, 1 conversation, & 1 chance to let me speak to you. Just, please give me 1 chance, 1 shot, 1 opportunity, & let me do my job. You're not in this alone. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to believe. Please don't give up.
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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