Last updated: July 12th, 2018
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
My message to those who have typical depression:
First off, before I begin, let me give a brief description on typical depression:
Typical depression can be caused by many factors. Having typical depression could lead up to being weak in yourself, oversleeping, overeating, becoming physically hurt, painful, hopeless, fearful, & just a overall low self-esteem are what typically causes this type of depression. As humans, we become typically depressed when things don’t go our way & the chips are down. We can all admit that, sometimes life gets really tough & circumstances get the best of us in most situations. This is what primarily leads to this kind of depression. However, you must also realize that one should understand that being typically depressed is certainly no way of dealing with our hardships, but rather, can have mental & as well as physical repercussions. This type of depression can always add to your anxiety levels & never lets you stay at peace. People who become typically depressed can never stay cool, calm & composed. They can never live their life & enjoy it to the maximum. Furthermore, this form of depression is no way of finding a solution to any of your problems. It will only waste your time & energies which can be rather spent in doing something constructive or perhaps in finding a possible solution to your problem.
Today, there are so many young kids, Men & Woman, & elder's that deal with typical depression now a days & think that they aren't, or were never worthy of life to begin with, but let's be honest here, everyone in this world is worthy of something. God put us all on this earth for one reason & one reason only, & that's because there's a plan within all of us. Although you may be currently depressed for whatever reason, whether it's family problems, relationship problems, love problems, bullying problems, cyber bullying problems, physical violence problems, friendship problems, social problems, or any other problems that might seem hard for you to deal with right now, or your stressed out & feel weak or hopeless, for whatever reason that may be, just realize that one day you'll look back at all of this & smile because life has had its ups & downs & even the toughest situations that you've gone through in the past can make you stronger in the end as life goes on. When I see or hear about someone who's typically depressed, I always try to remind them of their beauty, their self worth, & their good qualities. There are people in this world who do love you. There are people in this world who care about you. There are people in this world who do you want to help you, & no matter how hard or difficult your life may seem, or no matter what toughest situations you're faced with, just realize that none of these reasons of why you're typically depressed are worth taking or controlling over your own life. I like to think of it like this, the rule of life is to "get going" when "the going" gets tough. In other words, when life seems to want to hammer down on you, you must keep keep your foot down & keep moving forward anyway & you don't stop moving, because if you stop moving in life, then life it's self will keep moving forward, until it eventually stomps all over you while you have stopped to a complete halt. You're stuck, lost, confused, in the middle of nowhere, & hopeless in terms of wanting to move forward again. If you're someone with typical depression, don't let this haunt you, or scare you, as there are MANY positive sides towards this type of depression. For those people who are at a halt & are confused, hopeless, or think they aren't worthy of life in terms of wanting to move forward in life, just understand that this kind of depression is NOT something that is uncommon, meaning that if you're someone with depression, then don't think you're the only one that has, or get's typical depression, because there are many, MANY young kids, teenagers, & adults just like yourself that go through typical depression everyday. First of all, understand that being typically depressed is a phase, most people go through it, some don't. For some people who have entered this phase of depression, it might take longer for them to get out of this phase of depression, while others may be in this phase of depression for only a short amount of time. Some people go through this phase earlier in life then others do, it varies for everyone in this world.
However, I will promise you though, nobody in this world is ever alone. When you're feeling typically depressed & you've felt like you've entered this phase, you will ALWAYS have God by your side to help you get through your dark times, just ask him through prayer. In addition, you can always look up to a family member, a friend, a worker, a teacher, a policeman, or even a stranger. I also do advise for anyone out here in this world, that if you ever see someone in public who's depressed or looks depressed, to go over to them & help lift their spirits up. I say this because not only is it a nice & generous thing to do, but because you could possibly save a life or change a life for the better. Tell these young teenagers, or kids, or Men & Woman who feel depressed, what they're truly worth in this world. Tell these people that they're not alone. Tell these people that you will do all you can to try to help them out. Make these people feel a little more confident in their self's. Give these people some hope in their life's. Ask some of your friends who you may know to join in & help them, so that they have more support to look up too, rather then yourself. These are all thing's I would recommend for anyone who want's to help a depressed person who may be going through a lot. Do you know how many Young kids, teenagers, Men & Woman commit suicide from the simple fact that they think they're weak inside, or hopeless, or have no one to look up too, & not worthy of life? Sadly, we here these kinds of stories on local news stations, through social media, or through newspapers, & so fourth. So with this being said, whenever you see someone in public who may look like they're typically depressed or feel depressed, it's always never too late to help them out in their life for the better. As I've mentioned before, even the slightest attempt in trying to help someone, just by walking up to them & talking to them could change everything, it's all about using our judgement when we look at someone who may feel depressed. I will say though, that It's good to know that there are some people out here in this world that do have hearts for others & are willing to help others out with their depression.
Either way you look at it, being typically depressed in the first place end's up to be a a win-win in the end for us all, because you will given the chance to experience depression & learn from your type depression so that you know how to take control of it if it ever happens again. Now, you're probably thinking, "I know I'm currently experiencing what typical depression is like, that's half the battle, but how can I learn from my depression if I can't get out of this phase?" Well that's very simple. With God by your side & with all the support you have from others who may, or may not even know you, & with all the options that you have available to you when you're feeling depressed, as in telling somebody about your problems so maybe they can help guide you & get the appropriate help you need so that you aren't fighting this battle alone, even if they're people you aren't close too, like a police officer, even your own parents, your teachers, your co-workers, old friends who you may use to know, or random strangers who you may meet in public, or ANYONE in general. Understand that there will ALWAYS be options for you to choose from & there will ALWAYS be that someone who cares & loves you & will want to come up to you & ask if you're alright. Don't think you're alone in this world, because you're not. So with that being said, it's impossible for yourself, or anyone to begin to enter the stage of typical depression, & then have to live with this type of depression for the rest of their life & not be able to fight their way through the phase & live a better life knowing that they have only experienced from regular depression, especially when you have God by your side to speak too & to help guide you, & many other open options & key resources you could look up too to help you get out of your type of depression phase & so you can experience & learn from all this at the end, to maybe use your own knowledge to help, encourage, inspire, or set examples to others who may be going through the same type of depression you've gone through in the past, to give these people hope, confidence, & most importantly, the support they need. In the end, it becomes a win-win situation. Once again, for anyone who's in in this phase of depression, realize that NOBODY is ever alone in this world, including yourself. Though you may feel like your alone due to your circumstances, there will ALWAYS be someone to look up too, & if you're reading this & saying that you don't have anyone to look up too, then you're wrong, because I'm here. Though I may not be able to see some of you in this world physically & I may not be able to take all your problems away, I can assure you that you will not have to face your problems alone.
Though typical depression is a phase that some of us go through, you must realize that once you've entered this phase, this type of depression then becomes a world of it's own. Typical depression leaves you lost, it drops you into a never ending black hole, you want to get help, but you can't, & when you do get help, you wish you didn't, it leaves you numb with fear, it leaves you no hope, no ambition, & nothing to look forward to, tears well in your eyes from your own weakness & your own self-worth, & most of all, it will leak your tears out into the open. Seems hard to deal with right? Trying to stay strong for everyone around you, with a pasted on smile that quickly goes away when you're alone. I know it's tough trying to kill something that's on the inside, that eats you alive, & there's nothing you can do about it. No matter how hard you try, it just doesn't go away. I know it isn't easy, & nobody said it would ever be easy, but I know things will get better for you in the long run & you will ALWAYS have someone to look up too & there will ALWAYS be that one person who cares enough to want to help you with your depression. In the end, you will learn a lot about typical depression & you will feel much better about yourself afterwards, I promise. Again, No one ever said life was easy. There will always be someone or something, or some kind of situation that make your days pitch dark, hopeless & in tears, where your heart will be broken or torn into shreds of small pieces. In the end, you may be so depressed, typically, that you just sit in the corner & cry for hours, but this is all part of going through this kind of depression. This is 100% normal. Realize that typical depression is just apart of life, & eventually life goes on.
Here are some of my tips below on how to cope with your typical depression when entering this phase:
1. Make sure you sleep early at night. It is best if you have a relaxing soak in the bathtub or shower & leave plenty of time to get ready for bed. The earlier you sleep, the more hours you will get. Also, stick to a sleep pattern. Go to bed at the same time each night & get up at the same time. You should at least get 8 or more hours of sleep. This is good for the brain & surprisingly, this will help your depression.
2. If you find yourself feeling depressed, always remember to focus on breathing slowly. If you have any negative thoughts, do not ignore them, but instead, challenge them. Tell yourself that you can do it, & that you can cope with this challenge. Doing this will calm you down & put you into a calmer state of mind more quicker then normal & will help stop your depression earlier before it actually happens.
3. Talk to someone. You can talk to either a friend, family member, authority person or even a stranger. It is important to socialize & keep in touch with those who care for you & love you. Remember, keeping things to yourself & bottling your problems up doesn't help. Talk to people who understand what you're going through. It can be isolating feeling like you are the only person in the world with typical depression. So my advice here would be to talk to people who understand what you're going through. It is liberating to know that other people are in the same boat. So with that said, share tips on how to keep positive with one another.
4. Externalize your emotions. Find a nice, quiet area where you can think for a minute & work through your thoughts very deeply & try to understand to the best of your ability why you are having these thoughts or feelings & find out if they are helpful to you or not. Think of it like this, you could use the "pro's & con's" to each thought & feeling you have towards a situation, & then take each one into consideration.
5. Keep a diary & write in it. I suggest you write about what 'triggers' you may have that causes you to become depressed. Make a list of things that make you feel good & things that make you feel bad & focus more on the things that make you feel good rather then bad. If at anytime you forget something, you can always look back at your list often to remind yourself.
6. Eat healthily. Don't drink alcohol & avoid caffeine & sugar drinks. These drinks can make your blood sugar rise when feeling depressed, which is not good for the human body. The goal here is to eat lots of fresh food, fruit & vegetables that are healthy for your heart & brain. Doing so will eliminate some depression.
7. Take care of yourself. Exercise, go to a gym, talk a jog, walk, stay in shape, maintain a good hygiene & ultimately, take care of your body. Doing these things will give you a better self-image of yourself & will boost your confidence of being out in public which will make you feel less depressed.
8. Go outside. Get outside for an hour a day, walk in the fresh air & clear your mind of any worries you may have by recreating your mind all over again. This definitely helps in easing your depress levels down a notch.
9. Set goals. Set realistic, achievable & positive goals for yourself. Doing this will help you become more motivated rather then depressed. You will feel a lot more confident in yourself then before, & once you have achieved a certain goal, you will definitely feel the emotion of happiness in your heart, which will only add more towards the positive side of your life. This will give you the motivation to set
10. If your depression seems to be extreme, please talk to your doctor & ask what kind of help is available & take it. Taking therapies help a lot of people & so does counseling. They can work with you as well to work through these feelings & to help you feel better. There are several hot-lines available to help in situations like this. Also, medication is an option, but remember that it is your body, you can decide what goes in & what can't.
In conclusion, I hope this blog has helped those who are in a typical depressed state of mind. If by any chance you need to seek my help for anything, please don't hesitate to contact me.
Again, thanks for your time in reading what I wrote. As always, I appreciate the love & support from you all...
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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