Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
How I became the Man I am today:
I've been receiving a lot of requests lately to write about how I became the Man I am today, with such strong morals, values & standards for himself that not many people have instilled in them today. So with that said, I will briefly explain how I became the Man I am today. In addition, I will also layout my moral foundation for those who want me to openly express my faith publicly.
To start off, I became the man I am today through my spiritual journey during my childhood years. The way I went about making my spiritual journey successful during my childhood years were through 2 things. A) Observation of today's society & B) The power to change the "norm" that our society portrays to us, while being able to change society's outlook on myself by building my own moral foundation that revolves around my own God.
How did my spiritual journey start? Well my spiritual journey had first began with my parents who taught me how to build a moral foundation of moralities from when I was little. In other words, they taught me the difference between moral & immoral, as well as what to look out for when I'm in public. At that point in my life I was curious to know exactly what kind of actions were moral & immoral, so how I went about figuring this out was quite easy for me. I had used my common sense that I was blessed to have, that unfortunately not many people have. (You'd be surprised how my mind works at such a young age.) Anyway, when I was little, I was taught the "cause & effect" trick & had applied that technique to everything I've witnessed when I was little. This is where my observation had come into play during my childhood years & this is how my spiritual journey had started.
At the time when my spiritual journey had begun, there was 1 quote that motivated me to be observant during my spiritual journey. I had grown up around the saying, "different is unique, stand out & you will feel the power in you're hands." That's about the greatest quote I've ever been told. When I was younger, not only was I observant, but I was a very quiet & peaceful loner who was very observant of others actions in public. I didn't speak much to anyone during my childhood years, teenage years or high school years, nor did I put myself around groups of people who I didn't know. I was always drama free & stood myself aside from the pack. I had felt like everyone around me were the same kind of people, so I stood my distance. However, I was fully aware of my surroundings more then anything & was always aware of what was going on around me, as well as the outside world. I had looked at how today's society is, with all of its negative peer pressures, heartaches, drama & overall negativity that goes on in today's world. From what I've witnessed in the past, I have observed young teenagers, Men & Woman who are dishonest, inpatient, disrespectful, ungrateful, untrustworthy, unfaithful & much more. I've also observed physical violence, bullying, racism, hate, drama, as well as excessive body mods, like tattoos that mean absolutely nothing, as well as tons of piercings all over the place. Furthermore, I've observed those who like smoking, drinking, partying, having unprotected sex, dressing inappropriately, cursing, swearing, doing drugs & much more. My point is that I have observed all these things when I was little & I could see all the negative effects that these immoral things were having on our society as a whole, which gave me a red flag.
You're probably thinking, "How did you react to such immoral & negativity around yourself during childhood?" Well the answer is quite simple; at some point in my life I had made the decision to hack the key to finding my own faith by deciding that I no longer want to blend in with today's society, but rather live my life to be the exact opposite of what I see in today's society. I chose this decision of wanting to live my life this way because the word "different" is unique to me. The word "different" means change, & change is a very rare, but powerful source that I have, especially in a world that revolves around negative peer pressure of wanting to fit in with others for social reasons. Anyone can say the word "change," but to actually show change within, takes power. However with me, I am able to successfully reverse the "norm" that is portrayed in this society & make it my own reality. This allows me to stand out from the crowd & be respected for following my own beliefs, morals & values of life without the need of following the "norm" of today's society, which includes a large percent of followers with the same like-minded morals, beliefs & values of life as everyone else. I couldn't of been happier with the choice of being the exact opposite of what others portray in this world. This was the best choice I've ever made in my life & I would never look back & undo any changes because my faith is what makes me who I am today.
When it comes to my faith, I believe in leadership. In other words, I believe in being the caption of my own ship & being able to control the ship any way I want it. However, I don't believe in "following" other people's morals, values & standards of life to become someone I'm not. I truly believe there's not enough leaders who are able to stand out in this society because nobody is motivated or willing to find their "inner-self." In other words, nobody is aware of their own actions or surroundings as much anymore, as well as the kind of people they associate with on a daily basics. I believe that negative peer pressure has taken over most people. From personal experience, if you truly want to change yourself & put yourself aside from the others in this world, you must take a step back, watch & observe what goes in in today's society. Observation is always a good life practice because by observing what goes on in the outside world (especially negative things) you will then learn on your own what's moral & immoral in your own eyes. In addition, observation will also help you build & also customize you're moral foundation the way you want it to be, which allows you to become the caption of your own ship. Afterwards, you will then notice that you're morals will start to fall into place, & when they do, you will have yourself your own grounded moral foundation that's different from the "norm." This will strengthen your faith extensively, as you will feel the motivation, as well as your spiritual power that you created by yourself & hold in your hands.
Next, you're probably going to ask me, "How do you deal with negative energy in today's society when it comes to your faith?"
Well personally, If any negative energy comes my way, I will ignore it. I do not worry about what others may think of me, or my beliefs, morals or values of life. I don't let anyone pressure me into doing something I don't want to do with my life or force me to become someone I'm not. I own my life, I own my decisions, morals, values, standards & everything else that I strongly hold in my heart, including my own personal God that my morals, values & standards revolve around. There's nobody on this earth that can tell me how to live my life. All that matters is that I have the power to control my own life & how I want to live it, nobody else. Every single day I wake up, I am peaceful because of my faith. My faith, as well the power I hold behind to back up my faith are what make me happy & content with life. Forget about those who say you need a good education & a good amount of money to live a good life. Sadly, those are the only two things that our society is focused on. I don't need the education & I don't need the money. Without my faith, I have nothing. Those two things cannot buy happiness in my life. Happiness is not something that is given to me. I have to find it within myself. Happiness is where my mind is focused at this very moment & it's an emotion that I simply choose to feel because I have found myself at a young age. I stand up for my own faith & what I believe in. You will not stop me from being who I am. I know who I am. I'm me. I refuse to fit in with everyone else around here. I rather stand out, then fit in & be someone I'm not. I'm a leader, not a follower. I remain confident & stay true to myself. I will speak my mind if I need to be heard, if it's the truth or my own opinion. Whether you like it or hate it, it has no effect on me as a individual. I stick with my faith. I take my faith very, very seriously. I do not, & will not compromise my faith for anyone else. I accept, respect, love & help others (even those who don't believe in God) because it's part of my moral foundation. I accept what is in life without question, but I will not give up my faith or what I believe in for anyone else.
Now, I wouldn't consider myself lucky, or did I ever say I was "perfect", but I live my life off of my own moral foundation that I've built myself, from observation. I'm living proof of what my observation & power can really do without calling myself "religious" or forcing my beliefs on to others. I don't let religion control me. I'm spiritual so I respect & accept what others believe in, but at the same time, I don't change who I am & what I believe in for no one. I only tell it like it is.
Now, here's my personal relationship with my own God [without religion being shoved down my throat]
Broken down into moral format with 3 sections...
(Section 1): [Perks]
1. Acceptance (Taught by myself)
2. Faithfulness (Taught by myself)
3. Honesty (Taught by myself)
4. Patience (Taught by myself]
5. Respectfulness (Taught by myself.)
6. Loving & helping others (Taught by myself.)
7. Inspirational figure (social media.)
(Section 2): [Primary morals] (Permanent)
1. 24 year old virgin who's 100% pure & clean. [No, I didn't get this from the bible] This was my own choice to wait until after marriage. However, I have no problem being around people who aren't virgins. It's called respect & acceptance.
2. No piercings / holes (100% skin pure & fresh) [This is my own choice.] I have nothing against those who have piercings. It's called respect & acceptance.
3. No tattoo's (100% skin pure & fresh) [Again, this was my own choice.] Again, I have nothing against people with tattoo's. It's called respect & acceptance.
(Section 3): [Secondary morals] (Non-permanent)
1. Non-smoker / drinker (Has never touched a cigarette / bottle of alcohol or wine before) Body is 100% clean. [This was my own choice not to smoke or drink. This is just who I am.] Like I said, I have nothing against those who do drink or smoke. It's called respect & acceptance.
2. Doesn't attend any parties involving sex, drugs, smokers, or unknown people. [This is just who I am.] Again, I have nothing against those who do attend parties. It's called respect & acceptance.
3. Doesn't curse / swear in public (I'm fully aware of what to say before speaking) [I don't like cursing & swearing to begin with.] I don't like being around people who curse & swear, as I will walk elsewhere. However, I will not try to correct their language for them.
With that being said, I'm very blessed to have great parents who taught me how to live my life without religion, but also taught me how to develop a moral foundation from ground up so that I could learn on my own. My relationship with God is currently 19 years strong & counting. It never seems to fail me.
You're probably asking at this point, "why don't I attend church?"
First of all, I don't go to church because God works through me everyday without the need of church. How do you think I have the knowledge I have today? How do you think I am the person I am today? Do you think I'd be the same person I am without God? Think about it. I value my moral codes & standards more loyal then others & I don't regret them. I'm a moral leader who's mature & responsible for faithfully keeping his morals & standards in place at all times. I also don't read the bible either. Why? Because I believe action speaks louder then words. I don't want to read about it, I rather BE about it. If I'm mature & strong enough to present my morality in public everyday & stay loyal to who I am in today's world, then trying to worship or satisfy my own God isn't a problem.
Lastly, you're probably going to ask, "Do you pray or talk to you're own God?"
Yes, but personally I don't prefer church as a way to get close to my own God, as there are many alternative ways that you can connect with him, other then church. In my opinion, church is just a place to fellowship & worship with other fellow Christians. To me, that doesn't mean much if you're only there to sing a few songs together, or have a few "giggles" or associate with other Christians. If I want to associate, or connect with my own God, then I will do it at privately, at home when I need too, but I will not attend church or put myself around others while doing so because that's not the kind of person I am. Unlike many others, I keep my relationship with God everyday outside of church, not only on Sunday's, but every single day. I keep & value my own strong, well grounded morals that are satisfying to my own God & I'm proud of it. If you don't understand that, then you don't understand me.
Written & published by: Kevin Beard Jr.
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